So this is what you should definitely not say during a breakup

If you still don't feel that spark after yet another date, it might be better to call it quits. But how do you do that? You want to stay as far away as possible from the ‘it's not you, it's me’ clichés, while also considering the other person's feelings. Finding the right words is difficult, but fortunately, relationship experts Lindsay Tran and Shan Boodram have some tips on how to approach this; and which other commonly used phrase is an absolute no-go.

Mixed signals

So what you definitely shouldn't say: “I just don't have time for a relationship right now.” Honestly, you get goosebumps just hearing this, right? According to Tran, this phrase is often used to avoid confrontations and not make the other person feel bad. But especially that last part usually doesn't work. “No matter how good our intentions are, not being honest about our feelings is not always the nicest thing to do.” According to Boodram, such statements create mixed signals, making the breakup even harder for both of you. “These attempts at a softer rejection leave the other person confused or holding onto false hope. future contact when the time is right.” The other person might now be waiting until you're ready and is not opening up to others anymore. Meanwhile, you already know that it will never become anything, and that's obviously not fair. So remember one thing: openness is key.

What should you say?

The ‘I don't have time’ excuse is a no-go, but how do you ensure that you end a relationship in a good way? According to Tran and Boodram, it's important to be honest and set clear boundaries, while also showing that you appreciate the effort the other person has put into your relationship. This way, it's clear that the relationship is really over, and you prevent your ex-partner from being left with hope. An example sentence that the experts suggest is: “I enjoyed getting to know you, but I don't think we romantic are a good match. I wish you all the best.” You start and end positively, but in between, you are just clear. It can be nerve-wracking to be so direct, but this way you ensure that you give the other person the respect and honesty that you would also want. Ending a relationship is never fun, so you might as well do it in the best possible way; this way, you can both move on, looking for that perfect match.

Source: PureWow