What are lazy sex positions?

Lazy sex positions are positions where you have to move less and don't need complicated postures. They are ideal when you feel like having sex but don't have the energy for acrobatic moves.

Do slow sex positions really lead to more connection?

Yes, slow sex positions allow for more eye contact, touch, and breathing together. This often makes it feel more intimate and you can feel more connected to your partner.

Are lazy sex positions less intense?

Not necessarily. Although they are less physically intense, they can actually create more feeling and tension because you move slower and pay more attention to each other.

Which sex positions are the most relaxing?

Positions like spooning, missionary from the side, and the corkscrew are popular because you don't have to move much and stay close together.

When do you choose lazy sex positions?

Especially at times when you are tired, have little energy, or just feel like something calm and intimate instead of an intense sexual encounter.

Love & Sex

These 5 lazy sex positions create much more connection with each other

By Laudonne Roos | #!30Fri, 10 Apr 2026 18:00:42 +0200+02:004230#30Fri, 10 Apr 2026 18:00:42 +0200+02:00-6Europe\/Amsterdam3030Europe\/Amsterdam202630 10pm30pm-30Fri, 10 Apr 2026 18:00:42 +0200+02:006Europe\/Amsterdam3030Europe\/Amsterdam2026302026Fri, 10 Apr 2026 18:00:42 +0200006004pmFriday=9#!30Fri, 10 Apr 2026 18:00:42 +0200+02:00Europe\/Amsterdam4#04-10-2026#!30Fri, 10 Apr 2026 18:00:42 +0200+02:004230#\/30Fri, 10 Apr 2026 18:00:42 +0200+02:00-6Europe\/Amsterdam3030Europe\/Amsterdam202630#!30Fri, 10 Apr 2026 18:00:42 +0200+02:00Europe\/Amsterdam4#

Let's be honest: everyone enjoys a hot night where you're busy for three hours and collapse on your pillow, drenched in sweat. You know, those nights where you've seen every corner of the room, plus the balcony. Those evenings are great, but sometimes you just don't have the energy for it. If you both work full-time, manage the household, and also have to remember when that one family member's birthday is and what her hobbies are, your libido goes down. Exactly for those days when you want to get it on, but don't feel like a whole circus, there are lazy sex positions. These are easy, require no acrobatic skills, and ensure that you connect much more than when you act like gymnasts.

Being close really creates more connection

Being tossed from pillar to post is fun from time to time, but if you really want to connect, then slow positions are better. Slow sex shifts the focus from fooling around to reaching a climax together. By taking more time for each other, there is more space for eye contact and to breathe together. This creates a kind of super focus where you feel every movement more intensely. You go, literally, deeper. By building up slowly, you both become more aroused, so that orgasm? It hits ten times harder. And you get closer together. It's about listening to each other, laughing, and relaxing. Afterwards, you feel more connected than after a quickie.

lily sex position

This is how you get closer by being lazy

1. The corkscrew

This is a not too complicated position that is still exciting. One person lies on their side with one leg on the bed and the other leg up. The other person goes in at an angle from behind and penetrates from the side. While your leg is being held, the other hand is free to caress your body. Grab some massage oil and you're in for a long, slow evening. You look at each other and see everything. Every movement that elicits a reaction, every moan: yes, this is one to remember.

2. Spoon

The ultimate classic: spooning. Imagine lying together under the covers. Naked, in each other's arms. It's warm, you feel each other's breath, and you could lie there for hours. That's already nice, but you can also use this as a sex position. The big spoon can enter from behind, and together you move slowly back and forth. Let those hips work and relax together. Want to step out of your comfort zone a bit more? Then the ‘binding spoon’ is for you. This is the same as the regular spooning, but with one leg up. By throwing your leg up, you create more friction and depth. This is just a bit more exciting than the OG.

3. 69

You've probably seen this joke somewhere before, but that 69 position is really ideal if you want to be lazy. You don't have to make any crazy movements that look like you're still in the gym. In this position, you lie on top of each other, with your genitals near the other's mouth. You embrace each other and satisfy each other orally. By both being active, you experience exactly the same pleasure. This balance brings you together. When one suddenly pulls a bit harder or adds a finger, the other follows. It becomes a game of teasing each other.

4. missionary from the side

Have you played out the missionary position? Then you can try something else: the missionary from the side. The one who normally lies underneath is now on their side. The other slides alongside, lies on their side as well, and penetrates while looking at each other. By throwing a leg over each other, you can go deeper while moving little. Just like with spooning, this is about moving slowly back and forth, as if you're on a boat. This is the ideal moment to kiss and cuddle. All of that is possible. You can even do the pretzel missionary by wrapping your legs around each other. This gives you a bit more height, allowing for more space to go wild when you're ready for it.

5. Cowgirl

Hey, cowgirl. You can come out again, or, um, sort of, then. Because we're going to ride cowgirl. The penetrating partner lies on their side and supports themselves with one arm on the bed. Where you normally dive on top to ride, you now sit at an angle on your partner. Support yourself with your feet on the bed and sit on it. The nice thing about this is that you can control the pace. For example, by moving slowly at first and then suddenly speeding up. This play with the other can be very exciting, so do you want to get in the mood? Then this is your starting point.

So you know: if you're in the mood but don't want to be an acrobat? Then these positions are for you. There's always time for some fun. Have fun.