Afraid you're dating a woman hater? Here are the signs
Woman haters. They are everywhere. Men who think that women should only be in the kitchen, have children, and do everything they say. Whether you are talking about Andrew Tate fanatics or the viral ‘Can your wife’-videos: those disturbed men who act as if they are still living at the beginning of the last century, are walking around everywhere. But yes, you don't notice that right away. Most of those guys unfortunately don't flaunt it. How do you know when you are not sitting with a prince on a white horse, but dealing with a woman hater? You do this by paying attention to these things.
1. They believe women should ‘know their place’
This is a sign that can subtly creep into a conversation. Of course, you have braggarts among them who loudly and clearly proclaim how they think, but most weave their opinion into a conversation. They don't immediately start talking about the fact that their mother was a housewife and that they themselves have never had to lift a finger. You need to listen for the hidden signals. For example, when they say that their wife never has to work or that they are looking for a woman who can cook. A man who says that there are very few women who know their place and want a traditional relationship is a red flag.
2. Everything is a competition
Woman haters will want to use every little thing against you. They prefer to keep a notebook full of arguments to win every argument. They want power, and they only get that if they can belittle you and label you as crazy. You will notice that a real woman hater keeps track of who does what. Who paid for the last dinner, how many gifts he has given you, and when he sent you a sweet message. Name it, and he will use it to his advantage. A relationship is not about transactions, but in his book, it is. When he does something wrong, he can name all his ‘scored points’ so that it suddenly seems like he is doing everything right.
3. Dating is a competition between women and men for him
When you get to know someone, you usually do that to form a romantic bond. You don't give up your time and money to score the best on the ‘dating list’, but to meet the one. Woman haters think differently. They see dating as a competition between men and women. For them, it is always one against the other. A relationship is not teamwork in their eyes, but a ‘him versus her’ scene that he must win. Do you notice that your date feels more like an interrogation than a good conversation? Then something is wrong. If he knows better than you about everything you say and puts you down, he sees you as competition and not as someone with whom he can form a real connection.
4. They talk about women as a group and not as individuals
Does your date only talk about women in the plural? Then that could be a sign that you are dealing with a hidden woman hater. Talking about women as a group may seem very innocent. I can already hear them say: ‘Women are always so emotional.’ Or: ‘Women would never work if they got money from their husband.’ Do you recognize these kinds of statements? Then you can see this as the green light you need to hit the gas and drive away quickly. This kind of language is a signal that the man sitting across from you talks condescendingly about women and thinks he knows exactly how everyone is. If there were a textbook example of a woman hater, these kinds of statements would be included in the definition.
5. Women are to blame for every problem
Are you talking about the lonely men epidemic? Or about the fact that dating apps don't work? It doesn't matter what topic you bring up: that guy thinks every problem is the fault of women. Do you only hear excuses in which women are the reason why dating has become so difficult? Or, even stronger, why every relationship falls apart? Then you are dealing with a woman hater who lacks the ability for self-reflection.
6. They talk about emotional intelligence that isn't there
What you see nowadays is that woman haters are going to use our own wishes against us. Now that women are increasingly speaking out about wanting an emotionally intelligent man, those smart men know how to take advantage of that. They throw around sentences like: ‘I like how you communicate’ and: ‘I want to give you all the space to respond.’ But the next day? They are still arguing. At first glance, it may seem like you are dealing with an emotionally intelligent man, but in reality, they are waiting for the moment they can tackle you. By pretending to be someone who knows how to communicate, you walk right into their web.
7. They are ‘the nice guy’
This relates to the previous signal: does your date come across as the perfect man? Then there might be a catch. There are many men who seem attentive and caring at first glance, but as soon as you get closer, they completely turn around. Suddenly they make you feel guilty, get angry or cold, and know exactly when to play the ‘nice guy’ and when to act like the ‘mean man’. If kindness comes with certain conditions and quickly turns into anger or hostility, then they are not truly nice. It is an act.
So. Do you recognize these signals? Then it's time to pack your bag and walk the other way. The last thing you want is to think you have found the right partner, only to end up in the arms of a woman hater. Remember these tips, and you can prevent that. Really.
