Why phone sex is very normal

That not everyone has a side job as a phone sex operator, like Anne Hathaway's character in Valentine's Day, we understand. But experimenting is definitely allowed. Still, phone sex is something that not everyone necessarily gets excited about. It can be awkward and feels a bit strange, but trust us: try it once and see for yourself why this is just very normal (and fun).

It's good for your relationship

When you have a long-distance relationship or are in the middle of the corona pandemic, it makes sense that you can't always be together. A relationship is about more than just sex, but it must be very frustrating if you still can't touch each other after days, weeks, or maybe even months. Fortunately, there's something for that: phone sex. Whether you're just on a business trip or you live a hundred kilometers apart: experimenting via the phone is always a good idea. It's even good for your relationship. In 2026, you don't have to send erotic letters anymore. You just open FaceTime and you're ready for business.

Especially when there's distance, phone sex is a way to reconnect. If you can't touch each other for days, weeks, or maybe even months, that affects your relationship. Before you know it, at your next meeting, you're no longer partners but platonic best friends. Phone sex ensures that you don't lose each other, but rather seek out the tension together. There's nothing strange about that.

How to not make it awkward

At first, an online hookup can feel a bit awkward. You're both lying there, while you can't really see and touch each other. The whole foreplay is different, because what are you going to do? Do you start with dirty talk? Are you going to touch yourself or do you chat first about how your day was? Sex isn't made to happen over the phone, but it can definitely be great. You have to open yourself up and just dare to enjoy each other's voice and handy tools. Don't know how to cross that awkward line? Here are some tips:

1. Use remotely controllable toys

Anyone who thinks that sex toys are only meant to be used when you're together in one room is mistaken. Nowadays, there are plenty of toys that you can connect via an app. While you're lying on the couch at home, your partner can control your toy from anywhere in the world. This isn't a science fiction story, but reality. Just think of those vibrating eggs. You hold it where you want, and your lover decides how hard or soft it goes. This way, you can still lose control, just like during a ‘normal’ hookup. Try out all the settings and find out what works. And yes, this is the moment for some dirty talk. Talk about what you want to do with each other and let the toys do the rest.

2. Don't turn on the camera right away

You don't have to video call to have good phone sex. Sometimes it's nicer to just hear each other's voice. This gives you the opportunity to imagine what something looks like and how someone would go about it. Without a camera, you also don't have to worry about how you look or whether the lighting is good. There's less pressure to perform perfectly, which makes it easier to relax and really enjoy each other. And sex sounds? They're super exciting. Place the phone on your pillow and in no time you have your own ASMR porn that's better than any video.

3. Stand in front of a mirror

A mirror isn't the first thing you think of when you want to have phone sex, but it can help you gain more confidence and break the ice. During video calls, you're mainly focused on that small screen and how you look. A large mirror gives you a more natural view of how your partner really sees you. By looking at yourself in the mirror, you see yourself through your partner's eyes, and that's exactly what gives you the confidence to let go. You start to stroke and touch yourself as your partner would. Let them guide you and see how fun this can be.

4. Let go of perfection

That sounds easier than it is, but this is the secret to good phone sex. See this session as an outing to let everything go for a moment and let yourself be pampered. You don't think about how you look during a massage, do you, or whether you left the oven on? Exactly. Let yourself be pampered for a moment. This is the moment when you become one with your partner again, not the moment when you should start torturing yourself. Phone sex doesn't have to be perfect or movie-worthy. It's about giving each other the love you miss. It's not a Hollywood movie.