Love & Sex

With this body language trick, you'll score that next date

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Anyone looking for a new lover in a café or at a party will notice one thing: with so many people around you, it’s not always easy to attract someone’s attention. Waving exuberantly might be a step too far, but how do you ensure that others know you’re open to a conversation? According to behavior expert Vanessa Van Edwards, you can signal this with a subtle body language trick, focusing on one thing: your feet.

Croissant feet

According to Van Edwards, you can give a clear signal that people can approach you in very subtle ways with your body language. The golden tip: ‘croissant feet’. Yes, you read that right, croissant feet. Don’t worry, it’s not as crazy as it sounds. It’s about positioning your feet in a way that radiates openness. You do this by turning your toes slightly outward instead of placing your feet directly next to each other. This creates a curved shape like that of a croissant. It’s good to know because when people hesitate to approach you, they will primarily pay attention to your body language. Sometimes even without realizing it themselves. With this posture, you subtly invite someone to step a little closer. Your feet aren’t the only thing to pay attention to; your upper body can also signals convey signals. Here, one thing is again important: maintain that open posture. Crossing your arms or holding your drink in front of you can have a negative effect. It makes you come across as closed off. You can be the most striking appearance, but if your body language sends the wrong signal, people still won’t approach you quickly.

The next step

Are your feet positioned well and does your upper body have the right posture? Then it’s time for the next step: eye contact. According to Van Edwards, people sometimes need up to eight glances before they dare to approach someone. So it can help to occasionally seek eye contact yourself. Do you see someone you like? Try to really look at the other person and hold that gaze just half a second longer than what feels natural. If you subtly repeat this a few times, you increase the chance that it will lead to a conversation. Let your body language do the work, but be aware of it. For example, turn into the open space when you need to laugh or want to fix your hair. It’s a small sign that you’re open to another. You don’t have to force connections but this way, you ensure that you don’t waste opportunities unnecessarily. If there’s real chemistry, you will eventually find each other; the process just becomes a bit smoother. And that can be nice in the complicated world of dating. One last tip: you can of course use these tricks at your next networking event; who knows what opportunities might arise from that.

Source: PureWow