Psyche

Narcissism is a tricky personality disorder: some people have it in a heavier form, others in a lighter one. These people are full of themselves and believe that the blame always lies with others. What’s the best thing to say to narcissists? Narcissism is a personality disorder characterized by an exaggerated sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy for others, and a constant need for admiration and validation. Interacting with a narcissist can be a challenge, but there are strategies that can help reduce conflicts and promote healthy relationships. One of the...

Don’t know what you want in life anymore? Are you also at that familiar crossroads of doubts and worrying and hassle in your head? And that after your thirties? You’re not alone. Because there are plenty of doubts that are very normal when you’re over thirty. And we can all recognize that. 1. Because how do you know if this is what you want to do in life? I think the biggest doubt that most thirty-somethings have. The career. You’ve studied for years, you’ve learned and worked. Your first jobs are behind you,...

Man, I really hate flying. The misery starts during takeoff. That feeling as soon as you feel the plane tilt upwards is one that makes me anxious just thinking about it. Because there you are: stuck in a tiny seat in a plane above the clouds with no idea who is behind the wheel in the cockpit. Don’t. Call. Me. Just in case it’s not clear: I have a fear of flying just like one third of all adults in the Netherlands. By the way, everyone’s fear comes from different...

My father is one. A real one. He is adventurous, acts before he thinks, is interested in everything, and if there’s a word that doesn’t exist in his vocabulary, it’s ‘stuck’. I know that in advertising and marketing, they never look beyond people aged 49, because after that, you wouldn’t be interested in another brand. Well, they haven’t understood the Sagittarius well, because he is at the front of the line for something new. The Sagittarius has more luck I also believe that my father – I spoke to him this morning,...

What makes someone smart? Well, it’s the words you choose. We can all spout nonsense. But what do very smart, above-average intelligent people often say? It turns out that people with high intelligence often use certain words or phrases more frequently because they are naturally curious, open, and analytical. So you can pay a little attention to what someone often repeats. 1. 'It’s complicated, it’s not that simple to find this or that' Instead of seeing everything in black and white, people with a high IQ have a good understanding of the complexity of subjects....

In a time when we want to live as healthily as possible while not having too much time, the kiwi is a solution. I must say it’s not my favorite fruit in terms of taste, but when you list the benefits, you can’t help but include them in your daily menu. Here are the benefits: Rich in vitamin C Kiwis are an excellent source of vitamin C, even more than an orange. This makes the kiwi perfect for boosting your immune system, promoting wound healing, and keeping your skin healthy...

My nice colleague S lives in the center of Rotterdam. That’s of course very cozy, but it’s quite cramped. So when there’s a party next to her, with the windows open and the music loud, while she’s trying to recharge for the week ahead, it’s all a bit less festive. But even if you live a bit more spaciously in Bilthoven, it can still be noisy and crackling over the hedges. Why do you mow the lawn on Sunday morning? That construction scaffold has been there for almost a year now, can’t that be done faster? And because you don’t...

Narcissists come in all shapes and sizes: some people you can immediately tell have a narcissistic personality disorder. Others are a bit more subtle. And then it’s handy to know how to find out if someone is narcissistic. Narcissism refers to a personality trait characterized by an exaggerated sense of self-importance, a deep need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. It’s important to distinguish between normal narcissistic traits that we all have to some extent and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), which is more extreme and obstructive in interactions. That one question you can...

I was shocked when I recently looked back at some photos I took in a restaurant. Not because I thought I looked better when I left home or because it was clear that I hadn’t left my double chin at home, no, because I looked exactly like my mother. My gaze, my smile, my entire posture: we looked like lost sisters. Now I’ve spent my whole life looking like a mix between my parents. As a child, I looked just like my father, and during my teenage years, I kept...

Not every parent wins the award for Best Parent Alive, but if one of your parents is a narcissist, you have a tough time. How can you recognize that one of your parents is a narcissist? Well, ask yourself these questions. My father/mother has no interest in my problems My father/mother sees me mainly as something decorative. Nice to show off, but I must not be troublesome/complicated or time-consuming My father/mother often makes me feel like I’m not good enough My father/mother often makes me feel that his/her happiness depends on...