Happy & Healthy
6 THINGS YOU CAN LEARN FROM YOUR LOVED ONE
Sometimes there are those days when I look at my boyfriend with full envy. When my world is totally falling apart, I am sure, absolutely sure that I am on the verge of dying, he suddenly comes up with a simple kale remark that makes me realize in a flash that what-the-hell-am-I-doing is unnecessarily hysterical.
And there are quite a few other levenslessen things we can learn from men...
1. Stop with vague speculations
Wait a minute, that message from that one friend, what does she actually mean by that? Do I taste an undertone? Then I let Sander read it and he says, ‘Look, you might just be reading it wrong. Put your phone down for a moment and look at it again like this.“ Then I obediently listen, pick up the message again after half an hour, and think ohhh yes. That could be it…
2. Make a mountain out of a molehill – yes, that can also happen
While I am comfortably having a mini panic attack or four while searching for ‘the perfect dress’ for the wedding of that vague acquaintance, he casually slips into his suit half an hour before the start. “It's really not such a big deal, relax, just put on a dress...” No darling, you are also right. Grr.
3. Put yourself more in the spotlight
We are a lot more modest about, for example, successes at work. Just pay attention to how men do that, they put themselves in the spotlight much more without any problem while we find that bragging. What does that even mean?
4. Say ‘no’ more often’
Just read this. Men are a lot clearer in that, I think.
5. Address friends immediately on their behavior
Situation: one of your friends suddenly gets very close to a guy you have a crush on. And she surely knew that. Then you go on to tell four other friends how weird that is. That’s fine. That’s allowed. But men just solve these kinds of things differently. They literally step up to the guy immediately and that saves a lot of hassle. Amen.
6. Be more discreet
With a few glasses of white wine in play, women sometimes like to share things with each other that the other actually has nothing to do with. With a big grin, we then talk about the arguing at the office between colleague X and Y. Then men can sometimes filter a bit smarter about what they should and shouldn't share. Take your lessons, ladies.
