4 X SEX MISTAKES BY MEN AND HOW YOU CAN HELP HIM
by LotteLust
How wonderful it would be to meet a man in bed who knows exactly what you like, without needing any guidance at all. Unfortunately, this is far from realistic. Men sometimes make a faux pas (you can read about it here) in the bedroom. LotteLust We highlight the four most common ones. We'll tell you right away how you can help him without hurting his ego.
1. Straight to the point
Men tend to skip foreplay and go straight to sex. Did you know that women need at least 20 minutes to really get aroused? Women love to be seduced. To cuddle, kiss, and caress first. In short: to slowly build up the love game. Need foreplay inspiration? You can read the best tips here.
Here's how to approach it: Tell him right away. Subtle hints don't work with men, especially not when they're feeling frisky. Explain to him that you prefer to take it step by step. That you get super excited when he teases you, kisses your neck, or gently pinches your butt.
2. Just sex-sex
Expecting a woman to be satisfied with just sex is a common mistake. Most women don't reach orgasm at all without clitoral stimulation.
Here's how to approach it: Take him (literally) by the hand and guide him to your vagina. Let him stimulate your clitoris during sex at the same time, for example with his fingers or a toy. Encourage him by moaning and telling him how good it feels.
3. Quickie
We women simply need a bit more time than men to reach a Big O. Most men understand this, but sometimes they seem to forget it a bit.
Zo pak je het aan: Do you feel rushed during sex by your boyfriend? Take the lead so you can set the pace. He'll soon notice that you prefer a different rhythm. Taking charge in bed exciting? Not anymore after reading these tips.
4. Me, myself and I
It might be the biggest turn-off ever. Men who only focus on themselves and their own needs in bed. He doesn't even notice whether you've come or not.
Here's how to approach it: Do you catch your boyfriend making this serious sex mistake? Let it go for the moment. He's probably completely unaware of it. Plus, if you mention it in the heat of the moment, it's like talking to a brick wall. Talk to him about it another time. Frame it as constructive criticism: ‘I like it when we look at each other during sex.’ This way, he'll become more aware of you. Or: ‘Next time, I want you to kiss me all over during foreplay.’
