ARE YOU A HAPPY COUPLE?
(because that can be checked)
After three years, I no longer checked his phone (I really did it accidentally until then, the thing just went off when I was next to him). And if he had a nice conversation with an ultra-hot and dynamic woman, I no longer freaked out. Yes, in the beginning I was a bit insecure, but now, eight years later, I am totally okay with it. Or well, with a lot of things anyway.
And yet I get a little triggered when you can test whether your relationship is healthy. Because hello, I also want a super duper healthy and happy relationship and preferably with confirmation (and that ring can wait a little longer). Yes, we have been happily ever after for eight years, but I want to keep it that way. And there are things that healthy couples do (besides eating greens). This is how you recognize a good relationship.
1. The real lovebirds make time for each other every day. For example, you walk together with Fikkie. In the absence of a Fikkie, you do the dishes together. Check in the box, our breakfast for two is sacred.
2. Giving a compliment to the other when there are others around. I like that the most. And it helps.
3. No complaining. Happy couples focus on what is fun and do not dwell on the small and silly things. Okay, I think that’s really noble when you are on that time of the month.
4. And Mr. and Mrs. Happily Ever After flirt with each other. Remember: with each other.
5. Always let each other know when you are home. Aiaiai, we are not really clock-watchers. But yes, that keeps the spirits spontaneous.
6. Forgive and forget. You let those old cows lie deep, deep, deep in the ditch. So if you have a little disagreement again, you leave the garbage bag and that dangling sock out of consideration.
7. They keep the arguments neat and clean. Calling him names like Jantje-Pietje-Klaasje with the short last name is a no-go.
8. Empathy, remember? Click here otherwise just for a moment. You put yourself in his shoes (even if he has a size in the forties) and he does that vice versa.
Well, I am not an unhappy partner. And... how happy and especially how healthy are you and your love?
Source: Huffington Post
