So you got dumped…

The 7 reasons that it's all your fault

It's easy, isn't it, to always blame the man when you go through a break-up. Sometimes he's just not that into you (painful), but often you also have to thank yourself for him sprinting to the nearest exit. Again: painful.

Nowadays, YourTango is my holy grail with tips about love – much is written by men. We also get a bit more insight from a male perspective. And what they want us to know is that despite the fact that we can curse them out because they hurt us by dumping us, it often has been our own fault. Want to know what completely turns men off?

1. Women who don't listen

Okay, this will be the first and last time I ever admit this, but ladies, we are not always right (shocking). If you don't give him space to say something, if you get defensive about being right, you get nowhere. Everyone has their own opinion, don't make him feel like his doesn't matter.

2. Women who share too much with their friends

Your friends are your outlet, of course, the same goes for men. But be careful what you tell them. You don't need to share every irritation. Not cool for him and definitely not cool if they get involved and he feels like he comes off badly.

3. Women who involve their family too much in their relationship

Same story here. You really don't need to discuss every argument in detail with your family. You want your family to love your guy too, but if they only hear negative stories about all those pointless arguments that you really don't need to discuss with them, they will only have a bad image of him and can you blame him if he doesn't want to come around anymore?

4. Women who expect you to be together all the time

Can we talk about boring? Men don't always want to go with you. If you want to chill with your friends, go ahead but without the boyfriend. If you don't do everything together, the time you spend together will be even more enjoyable.

5. Women who are too independent

Yes, yes, yes, super nice that we ladies can really do everything only , but men have an ego that needs to be fed. You don't want him to feel like you're only using him for sex (yes, even men can feel that way)?

6. But certainly also women who are too clingy

Also a turn-off. You need to find a middle ground. A mature woman who has her life in order but also shows that there are certain things only you can fulfill.

7. Women who talk too often about things from the past

Everyone makes mistakes, but you learn from them. And if you feel the need to bring up that one mistake in every argument or whatever, then he will be your ex in no time.

Are you still in your twenties and dumped? Ha, nice: a break-up in your twenties is actually good for you.

Source: YourTango