Staying together is out of fashion
It becomes a bit boring, predictable, the sex is already yawning lying in a starfish and there is so much male beauty around. Well, staying with one person for your whole life is not that simple.
According to the CBS, in 2014 no less than 40 percent of marriages ended in divorce. Staying together is absolutely not a trend – it's rather just ordinary. if you experience break-up after break-up.Or if you search further, discover more, put a stop to it. If you purely look at the numbers, believing in love is something from the past. The long relationship has officially had its time. It has happened, passé, out of fashion. More than ever before, easy temptation can be found – read: Tinder. You meet a new beautiful specimen within three seconds. If you want to, of course.
And that new, exciting man you will compare with your dull, simple, boring life with your current partner. We are more mindful than ever before: we want to get everything out of every day and want to live completely in the now. And so we want to be happy every day, have no arguments, see no tears flow, and above all have fun. Deep valleys? No way. We don't do that anymore.
Oh yes, those lesser days, we all have them. You suddenly can't remember the rosy times of kisses here and hearts there. According to science, the substance in your brain that you produce when you are in love decreases after three months to three years. Passionate kisses and not being able to stay away from each other make way for washing each other's pajamas and bickering about unloading the dishwasher. It's not cookies and eggs every evening anymore, sometimes it's nagging and whining. In short: the routine sets in. And then it is quite tempting, that grass on the other side. Sorry, romantics. This is how it goes in 2017, with l'amour.
And this is where the long-term relationship nowadays fails. We don't want to know anything about those ‘difficult phases in the relationship’ anymore, and so it's goodbye, and hello, as soon as things get tough. For him, countless other dates on the agenda. We don't want to work for it anymore, and a relationship is hard work – whether you've been together for a month or 11 years. You will always have to open up emotionally and fight for the other. And that also includes the stupid days, where you can shoot each other and would rather talk to the neighbor about his plants in the garden than sit on the couch with him.
Of course, it can also be different. If you persevere and look a little through all the dips, you will see that you too will be back to roses and moonlight together after some arguments. Because don't forget: even on that grass on the other side, after a while there's a pile of autumn leaves.
FACTS
– About 65,000 people get married in our country each year. In the long term, that number is decreasing.
– On the other hand, registered partnerships are indeed popular. No less than 15,000 people found that last year to be the solution.
– Partners of the same sex are less likely to choose marriage than registered partnership.
