This is how you dump that fling
I recently talked about everything you need to do when you've been dumped? Well, can we also talk about the situation when YOU are the one who has to dump someone else? I am a DRAMA in this. I honestly don't like hurting someone but yes, sometimes you just don't feel it or you meet someone else who makes your heart secretly skip a beat. Well, then you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do. But hallelujah, once again: I am incredibly bad at this. I prefer to postpone it. And very secretly, I would just like to make use of that ghosting tactic. Can't really do it, but man, what a lot of stress I save myself with that – don’t do it though guys, it’s not fair to the other person.
You should know that while I’m typing this, I’m tense with nerves, because I just had to send the ‘I’m not feeling it’ text. Blegh, I hate it (but well, it was to be expected). Luckily, I have my sweetest Simone on the right who is very clear about these things: ‘Elke, just be straight to the point. You send him a message NOW.’ Yeah, that’s fine, Simoon, but what the hell do you send to hurt someone as little as possible? So here we go, the girls from Amayzine have put together a list of tips: this is how you dump that boy you unfortunately don’t feel much for.
- Put yourself in that boy's situation. How would you like someone to say something like that to you?
- First, type your draft message in your notes. He doesn’t need to see that you took a long time to write it.
- Read the message out loud to people who are always very honest with you.
- Don’t sugar coat that sh*t. Men read things differently than women.
- Don’t be so dramatic (note to myself); it’s not the end of the world.
- Suppose you still want to make an effort to stay friends (for whatever reason), make sure you meet up as soon as possible for a cup of coffee or something.
- If you really have (female) balls, then you meet up with that boy and just say it face to face. Don’t go out to dinner, just meet for a drink and definitely don’t postpone the conversation. It’s pretty awkward if you’re having a great time all evening and suddenly come up with: ‘Uh, oh yeah by the way, I’m not feeling it anymore, okay bye.’ Not classy.
- Here are some wise words from Liesbeth.
Alright ladies, noted? The most important thing is that you especially don’t keep him hanging. Just rip off the band aid girl, it will be fine.
