Fun & Famous

The most maddening way to break up: ghosting

So there is finally an official word for that weird I-disappear-out-of-nothing-from-your-life-and-ignore-you-totally trick. It's called ‘ghosting’. Yup, that situation where the other person (or you) suddenly seems to have disappeared from the face of the earth without any explanation and doesn't respond to any messages anymore. In fact: practically dead. That form of ultimate madness is now a real verb.

Despite persistent rumors, Charlize Theron still denies that she ghosted her ex Sean Penn. Because the actress knows: people who ghost are directly associated with the North Pole, and nobody wants that. “The fucking ghosting thing, like literally, I still don’t even know what it is. We were in a relationship and then it didn’t work anymore. And we both decided to separate. That’s it.” There’s no hint of ghosting to be derived from that, just so we know.

“Do you know how LAME that is?”

A recent poll from the Huffington Post shows that 11 percent of adults apparently are not mature enough to end a partner, fling, or friendship in a humane way. According to The New York Times, ghosting literally means: “ending a romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring the other person's attempts to reach out to ignore.”

Yep, sounds familiar.

I get that this might be a trend in Tinderland or wherever, but do you even know how LAME this is? Especially young adults aged 18 to 29 would regularly be the victims of ghosting. Speaking of which, two years ago I was totally dissed. One of my best friends pulled the plug on our soulmate relationship without consulting me (that’s not cool in ghosting) and left me with all my questions and has ignored me to this day. My number, WhatsApp; all the connections we had on social media, everything, but really EVERYTHING suddenly blocked. No communication is truly the lamest way of communicating ever. After that, I went through the five stages of grief: denial, anger, wanting to fight, sadness, acceptance. Happy ghosting.

And therefore, for all the ghosters: shame on you. And for all the poor souls who have ever been victims of this horrific torture of silence: if someone has put you so low that you are ‘ghosted’, then it’s just fine that that person disappears from your life. Bye.