We consider this an acceptable number of bed partners that the other may have.

An inevitable yet quite uncomfortable conversation topic with your love: how many girls has he seen before you? As in: in his bed?

Sooner or later, it will most likely come up anyway. You both have a past after all. So nothing to be ashamed of, right? But what is a bit normal, in terms of bed partners?

Research shows that we have an ideal number in our heads when we have to guess how many girls he has jumped into bed with before he met you. And that is: 3. Yes indeed. We can live perfectly well with three others, but not really with more. The general conclusion is that the wildest casanovas are not all that popular. Because the more people he has been to bed with, the less attractive the guy is found. Something about a licked sandwich, yes.

Now we can all find 3 a nice number, but the average number of bed partners for any random mister is between 8 or 9. On average, that is. So there is certainly a chance that there are actually quite a few more. Women have had an average of 5 or 6 bed partners before they settle down properly.

Although 3 is a favorite, if we may say so, a fairer answer is that we find between 8 and 10 bed partners okay. We can live with that. If your flame talks about 20, 30, 40... then it's a bit of panic in the tent.

This is because you automatically think that the person is very into sex. And into a lot of sex. And that makes you wonder if you are doing everything right and if he won't quickly pack his bags to look elsewhere. Too few, on the other hand, is also not good: with one or two bed partners, we worry that the person wants to develop more skills and wants to sniff around in the wide world of singles. In short: it's not easily good.

But hey, as long as you have it cozy together between the sheets, you don't care what he used to do (or not). Now he is your sandwich. Ha.

FACTS

• Speaking of wild years. At 22, we would relatively have the most bed partners, on average.
• Can it be a bit more? Men find 2 bed partners ’too conservative’.
  18 percent of women say they have been to bed with fewer men than is actually the case. 17 percent of men lie the other way around and exaggerate the number of bed partners.