This is the only reason why cheating is good for your relationship

Eating from two sides happens in the best love relationships. And that's actually not so bad.

Because yes, you might not be able to imagine it, but cheating also has a big advantage. Some relationship therapists argue that your relationship improves if one of the two has looked outside or when both of you have been a little naughty. Why? If after all the sneaky stuff you still don't want to leave someone, that's a good sign. Or if you still really don't want to lose him, even after his infidelity.

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Because if you decide to stay together despite the cheating, you will automatically put more energy into your relationship. Making time, doing fun things, suddenly sleeping in red lingerie instead of an XL pajama... Boom, you are trying harder for the other than you did before, because you know it's needed. That it's now or never. That you want a future with him and therefore shouldn't let that love between you fade. This way, the bond quickly becomes tighter and the relationship only deepens. You know you have to fight for him, whether you have been with someone else or he is the bad guy. Either way, you have to fight for your man and that is a huge boost for your relationship., dan ga je automatisch meer energie in je relatie steken. Tijd vrijmaken, leuke dingen doen, opeens in rode lingerie slapen in plaats van in een XL pyjama… Hoppa, je doet meer je best voor de ander dan dat je voorheen deed, omdat je weet dat het even nodig is. Dat het nu of nooit is. Dat je een toekomst met hem wil en het dus niet moet laten verslonzen, die liefde tussen jullie. Hierdoor is de band al gauw wat hechter en wordt de relatie alleen maar diepgaander. Je weet dat je moet knokken voor hem, of je nu zelf met een ander hebt staan vozen of dat hij de boeman is. Hoe dan ook, je moet vechten voor je vent en dat is een enorme oppepper voor je rela.

And that also lies in the decision to stay together, despite everything that has happened. Because in this way, you actually declare your love for each other again. You both know for a moment how it can be without each other, but you don't want that. Look, it's not really pleasant to hear about another girl who is after YOUR man. The #^%!$#! that she is. And the damn scoundrel that he is. But if someone cheats or has feelings for another, something is clearly not right between you. There is something missing. But looking closely at that grass on the other side and then discovering that it is not greener helps you out of that huge fire. This reduces the chance of cheating again significantly. After all: you have already seen it. Or he has already seen what is out there, so it doesn't matter anymore and it is no longer tempting to engage in that crooked skating.

According to experts, you must adhere to these two things for success after cheating:

• The one who cheated no longer cheats with that other person. In short: the ‘affair’ is over or it was really just a one-time thing.
• The one who cheated must regret that action.

In short, it doesn't have to be so detrimental if one of you has played a little foul.. Because the chance is smaller that it happens again and you make it a more beautiful party together. One hundred percent guarantee that it is then more intimate than ever between you. Don't worry too much about that one drunken kiss or make-out session – we are all just human. And the rules in love we happily make ourselves.

FACTS

• Yes, we are forgiving: more than half of all relationships in which cheating occurs simply continue to exist.
• A man is five times more likely to cheat if his partner earns more.
• We are getting older but not much wiser: people over 55 cheat more often than those under 55.