This effect infidelity has on your nèxt relationship

If your one and only lover really messes with another, then you'll definitely be in a twist for a while.

You are hurt, it even physically hurts, that intense heartbreak, and you have lost all faith in the eternal love promptly. How do you move on when it feels like you've been traded in for someone else?

One thing is certain: if you fall in love again and want to start a relationship with the next man, it will definitely not go smoothly. Never ever. You trust the other person less quickly than you used to. You are no longer naive and reckless. Unfortunately. You worry more, are quicker to be stubborn. Logically, you have been betrayed and you believed all the lies of your ex back then. Who says Mr. Newby isn't also lying through his teeth all day long? You inevitably carry this with you when you want to let a new man into your heart. If he comes home at 5:30 AM after a night out? You immediately don't trust it at all. Not fair, but that's how it goes.

Another effect you owe to that deceitful ex: you will compare your new partner more than ever with your old love. And it only takes something tiny to reopen the old wounds. See one girl's name appear on his WhatsApp screen? You explode immediately. And then it's tears galore. But remember: being sad or reminiscing about an ex doesn't necessarily mean you want that relationship back. And if things are good with your new man, he will also accept those thoughts you occasionally have about what you've been through. Everyone carries a little backpack of life with them and well, broken hearts are just part of life. You are neither the first nor the last.

What helps is that you can best be honest about your ex. And don't doubt yourself forever and ever. Don't think: I was too clingy or I wanted too much from him, or I gave him too little attention... No. It happened and it really wasn't your fault. It was about both of you together.

And about that cheating jerk, you don't have to worry too much. Because those who snag a new partner through cheating usually end up with a less good next relationship. Most relationships that blossom from infidelity are doomed to soon crash again. So wish him lots of fun and goodbye. You deserve better. Farewell.

FACTS

• 42 percent of all blondes are up for some cheating.
• In France, they are anything but loyal. Certainly a third of women and the majority of men cheat on their partner.
• More than 50 percent of all marriages survive a bit of cheating.