Especially don't say this to someone who is pregnant

Everyone means well, but sometimes all those opinions when you're pregnant can be quite exhausting. It's already so much to experience for yourself, especially for the first time. And then all those comments from acquaintances and friends and friends of friends keep running through your head. And sometimes that's not fun.

What you definitely don't want to hear when you have a baby (or two) growing in your belly? Here they come.

Why don't you have a belly yet?
Uh yeah, that takes a few months. I can't do anything about it. But I do feel very pregnant, you know. I'm nauseous 24/7 and exhausted, wow.

Wow, your belly is big, huh! Already!
In my case: yes, that's right, there are two. But you don't need to hear this. It's already quite difficult to buy clothes and get used to that round belly. And round buttocks and legs and head.

I'm sure it's a girl. It's definitely a boy, I can tell by your belly.
What a fuss about that gender. Everyone thinks something and in the end, 50 percent is right. But it's already quite intense for yourself as a mother-to-be to hear what it will be, or what they will be. You don't need to hear all those comments from friends about what they think you're having. Then you might hope for something more, because your best friends seem to know for sure that you're having this. Nobody knows and you'll tell it when you're ready. The only one you listen to is your midwife.

Are you ready to become a mother?
Does anyone ever know for sure?

Now your life is over, but you can almost drink again, you know.
Your life isn't over if you can't drink anymore, you just get a different way to fill your week. And your old life won't come back after that pregnancy, and only the pregnant person in the game realizes that, I think. Of course, you can still have a glass of wine now and then, but life will be different. Suddenly, you have the care of a little one. Or two little ones.

I think it must be tough to be the first of all your friends.
Yes, it is. Nobody needs to tell you that. But it's also nice to be the first, because now everyone finds it extra special and everyone is extra supportive.

I already know what name you're going to choose.
Keep it to yourself, if you have an idea, because what if you guess the right answer and then... That would be a bit of a spoiler.

Are you really dreading the delivery?
No, I'm really looking forward to it.

Have you saved up?
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Don't get me wrong, I really want to chat with everyone about being pregnant, but not everything is fun about pregnancy. I also have a lot of emotions and difficult moments. Then some things just make it harder. I could also say it myself, you know, to someone expecting a baby, so I don't blame anyone. It's just something to think about if you know someone in your close environment who is going through it all.

What you can do then? Just be really positive. ‘Oh what a wonderful celebration, a twin.’ These are the people I like to talk to. Those who laugh and say that everything will be fine, everything is fun, everything is exciting, really, but that life is mainly full of beautiful surprises . Happy thoughts, they help. Because they stick just like those negative comments. Those happy, enthusiastic, cheerful sentences. And you draw strength from them when you don't know anymore. Yes, it's also fun, and yes, it's also special and it will all be fine. Thank you, everyone. And it's never too late to start saving, right?