If your best friends are single and you are not
After all those years of dating, I am now wonderfully provided for. We have a little house, two pets, and okay, no tree, but always a fresh wild bouquet on the table.
When you are settled, it can also be difficult. As wonderful as it is not to have to worry about awkward dates and dirty kisses in the pub anymore, it changes your daily life too. Because you become a bit duller. That happens, even if you don't want it to. You no longer feel the need to go out every night of the week to have drinks and snacks with friends. You are ready for sports, salad, sleep, and routine. You no longer have the energy for all that partying, acting silly, and festivals. And the hardest part is: your single friends still want to do that.
Not that partying can only happen if you are still looking for love, but when you are in a relationship, you do have a bit more desire to just be at home. Together. All that swaying with strangers and all that hangover – you know that well enough. Your single friends have different interests than you do as a committed woman. That's not a problem, but sometimes you miss those times when you led the exact same life with your best friends. That you shared day in and day out because you, well, wanted to do the same thing day in and day out and had time for it. Of course, you still see each other, but it all feels less obvious. You have to take each other into account.
Your life changes. You move in together, you get married, you talk about children, and yes, you actually want to become a mother quite quickly, if it is granted to you. Their lives change less drastically. They still visit the same pubs, parties, and trendy places as you did together before. Look, one is not better than the other. It is also nice to be single a little longer and have more time for just yourself. But it is also nice to share your life every day with a dear love, who is of course also your best friend. It is so difficult sometimes: you can't be both. You can't be the loyal wife on the couch with a book and the fun girlfriend who always drink one wine too many. orders.
The ultimate trick, then, if you are settled and your best friends are still single ready to mingle? Divide your time. Go out dancing on Fridays and lie flat on the couch on Sundays. Go on a date with your husband on Thursday and have pizza with your buddy on Wednesday. But, more importantly: know that it is normal for phases to change and that you won't always be on the same page in life with your friends. And that if they are truly your best friends, you will be able to handle this too. And that they will surely catch up with you one day, with pacifiers, diapers, and game nights.
