It's good to be a witch towards your partner every now and then

I am perplexed and I don't often feel that way. I have asked without exaggeration four hundred eighteen times how and what my friend precisely wants me to order online, and at the moment I press the confirm button, it beeps that it should be a quarter turn different.

Well #!#!21!@%^. I breathe in, breathe out. But I can shoot him. I ASKED YOU. YOU KNEW IT FOR SURE. NOW IT'S TOO LATE. That's what I want to scream. But I don't. I hold back. I stay silent. For the sake of peace at home. One, two, three, four… “Okay, fine. I'll email them to see if it can still be that quarter turn different.” Now research shows that it's not good at all to hold back all that anger. And that it's actually better for your relationship if you occasionally let loose.

Why? You inevitably spend a lot of time with your loved one. You live day in and day out with each other. You often share a house, a life. So it makes sense that sometimes things spark and itch. That sometimes on lesser days some glasses break and some sensitive promises fall through. And besides letting yourself go a bit is a good plan, because this way you can tackle things again for a while. Blowing off steam has a positive effect on your love life. And also your sex life. Afterwards, you feel like ten again. Moreover, it shows trust in the relationship: the more you criticize the person in question, the more you show that you love that person. Huh, what? Yes. Precisely because you believe that this love is forever, you dare to let yourself go. That is also noticed. Honesty counts, so cheerfully shout that there can be a mess in that whole order and you are the best friend on earth.

Okay, before you do nothing but snap and bicker – don't make it a daily habit. But don't forget: once in a while it's allowed. It even has to be. Because no matter how deep that love is, you can't always and everywhere find everything so sweet handsome and nice about someone. So prepare yourself, darling. Who knows, I might just start talking about that !#%!^&$# order after all. Out of love.

FACTS

• 13% percent of couples argue about snoring
• Spending time together is not always the key to success; certainly 10 percent of couples break up after a vacation
• No less than 24% of couples say they never, ever argue. Uh, yeah.

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