Don't worry: other people have less sex than you think

If it has been about three weeks since you and your husband last had sex, then you might feel a bit down about it. And think: wow, it needs to happen again. Otherwise, we are a dull couple.

But that is not necessary at all.

Because with others, the sheets are really not greener, you know. Sounds dirty, but you get it. Research shows that we have a somewhat distorted view of all that hopping around. We think that friends do it every day like bunnies, just before their workday starts, or neatly before going to sleep on Monday night after exercising, but nothing could be further from the truth.

For instance, we guess in a study that people between 18 and 29 years old go about fourteen times a month, in a relationship while the other is fine with taking it easy for a few months? It has to do with the female cycle. About two weeks before menstruation, hormone production in women starts to increase, which is favorable for libido. So around ovulation, you have the most desire for a quickie. It can very well be that during those days you wake up from erotic dreams or fantasize a lot about a threesome, lesbian kisses, or other exciting escapes from ordinary life. but in reality, this averages only four or five times. So we are all quite normal. Because this is average. Twice a month? Possible. Eight times a month? Certainly allowed.

We think that others are busy in bed, but that is not the case at all. And because of that, you can feel quite a bit more insecure and start doubting your relationship. It also has a bit to do with the big talk. Everyone you speak to always says that it’s always a party in the bedroom. Even your good friends tend to exaggerate. That’s just how it is. A little white lie to sound more exciting: ‘Oh with us, well, I think it was a maximum of two weeks ago…’ While it’s actually nine.

Just be a bit nicer to your regular partner.. Relax. If you both feel like it, it will happen. And besides, no one knows, because everyone makes up juicy sex stories here and there. Just remember that four or five times on average. Or think of all those singles who might not do it for a year.