Certainly 22% finds sex with a previous partner better
Of those things that you will never, ever admit in real life, but that are indeed researched.
Especially about exes and everything that comes with it, we prefer not to talk about it with der neue kerel. It turns out that at least 22 percent of people think they had better sex with a previous flame than with their current partner. But we don't say that, of course. And that's a bit, eh, awkward.
But it is also explainable. Fortunately. Because everyone romanticizes a past a little bit. You no longer think about the worse things or bad sides of an old love, you only remember that explosive sex session lasting 1.5 hours. That time in the bath, behind the curtains in the hotel, or in the toilet of that trendy cocktail bar. You no longer remember those irritations, why you found him less appealing after a while, and why you broke up. Romanticizing is something we all do, because as humans, we tend to think positively about everything. Positive thinking happens automatically, and as a person, you often remember happy moments better than bad moments. In a relationship, that also makes sense, because that exciting sexual encounter is one specific moment. The spark fading happened gradually. That is not one moment you can remember, and thus you don't remember it that well.
Now, it's not so strange that at least one in four women jumps back into bed with an ex. No matter how much we would like to see it differently, we still crawl back to our old loves, from then, from the past. What is even worse than sex being with an ex is perhaps the fact that one in three women regrets the break-up with an ex and that they find their ex more appealing than the one they are currently in bed with. Oops. Well. Then finding ‘sex with your ex better’ isn't that bad after all.
Anyway, don't read too much into it when you think back to that fling with that guy from long ago. They are just memories. And you make enough of those with your current partner, just wait and see.
FACTS
- A third of people sometimes talk with their current partner about all exes
- At least 16% of women forbids her boyfriend from having contact with an old lover
- Six out of ten people say they miss their ex
