This is how you stay in love with your husband/wife

“After so many years together, has ‘being in love’ changed into ‘loving’? I was honestly shocked when I was recently confronted with this question. Jon and I have been together for 14 years now, but we are still head over heels in love with each other. Of course, there are moments when I would like to stick him behind the wallpaper, but even that is a sign of a healthy love relationship. If you are indifferent to everything and love has turned into ‘loving’, it starts to resemble a brother/sister relationship. To avoid that situation, these points are vital to stay in love forever. stay in love with your partner.

Spend time:

Invest enough time in each other. Our schedules are overflowing with appointments, but make sure there is regularly a cross in your agenda to spend some quality time together. Emphasizing ‘quality’: no phones, secretly sending emails in between, or already thinking about your work for tomorrow.

Make a total commitment in your relationship:

Then you will think twice before breaking up. If you have problems or disagreements, agree in advance that you will tackle them, work on them, and resolve them, no matter how long it takes or how difficult it may be. A total commitment is the starting point to stay in love forever.

Keep surprising each other:

It can be in the smallest things. A sweet note on someone’s pillow when you are away for the night, showing up spontaneously when the other doesn’t expect it, or cooking an elaborate dinner for two with candles and romantic music. That way, there is often a beautiful bouquet of flowers waiting for me at home or there is a Kinder Bueno in the glove compartment of the car (love sigh...). Bueno in het dashboardkastje van de auto (verliefde zucht…).

Communicate openly and honestly:

As soon as something bothers you, put it on the table. Make sure nothing can fester underneath that builds up to anger that is much greater than it actually was. Also not unimportant: wait until the other can listen with full attention and understand what you are saying, instead of overwhelming your partner with your message at the end of the day.

Claiming is a relationship killer:

Never put too much social or emotional pressure on your partner, because nothing is more unattractive. Both maintain your own life, respect each other’s needs, and keep your jealousy in check (!). Trust each other completely, because only then is there room for love.