Why a good relationship is precisely detrimental to your sex life

If you're a hundred percent pink clouds and unicorns-happy in love, then you're really in trouble. Because having a really good relationship is extremely killing for your sex life.

That has a logical explanation: precisely because you know that things are going so well between you and because you are sure that there is no rain cloud in the sky, you don't worry so much about that whole thing. A week without it? Oh, fine. A month ago already? Oh, that will be fine. Fortunately, we did have good conversations. That idea.

People who are very happy with their partner find it less and less interesting to get all tangled up in bed after a long day at work. It's not necessary, that desire, to compensate for another lack. There is no other lack. Everything is complete. They are happy. That desire is less, because you don't feel like you have to prove yourself from within. Nothing needs to be improved.

You have completely conquered each other, you are happy with how everything is going and you are each other's best friend. You kiss and cuddle and find each other really attractive, but hold on a second, after a night out do you have to? Thanks, but no thanks. Horizontal in sleep mode, and quickly. And that Sunday morning? Come on, out of bed on time. Great moment to work out at the gym. Or to do the laundry.

If you have a long relationship that goes completely smoothly, you get more used to each other. Not only is your body or little buddy no longer surprising, you also get used to living together. If you live together, you also need time for yourself. You will start taking that more often after a while, because you are both busy with a career, a group of friends, and a family that demands attention. Your moments for yourself are precisely those moments when you are just lying in bed and just waking up on Sunday morning. Then your mind is not exactly set on intimate physical activities. You are happy that you finally don't have to or must do anything, from anyone or anything. But yes, that does somewhat come at the expense of your sex life in the long run.

But for anyone who is in a relationship and is generally quite content: no worries. Because although the quantity may decrease over time; the quality only increases. The longer you are together, the better you know what the other likes. So if it happens, it is definitely fireworks and splashes. And that is more important than six quickies a day, right?

And to prevent worse... Just skip that workout once on Sunday morning. Suddenly you have time to spare.

FACTS

• What one in three young people does first after a hookup? Check their phone.
• Half of the people are put off by someone who doesn't smell good.
• 75% of women wouldn't mind if their man dressed up in a firefighter suit for a bit of role play.

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