Why you should never ask your best friend to be the maid of honor

You have people who ask their very best friend to arrange everything on their big day. That is an honor. But also a bit... A lot of work.

Some do it anyway and think it's just a nice, appreciated role. But the fact remains that if you have to organize someone's entire wedding and hang 180 lanterns and welcome 150 guests and hang up 150 coats and pour 150 glasses of champagne and serve 921 canapés with brie, you mainly have stress as a master of ceremonies. And you are exhausted after that day of your friend. That friend who you also kind of hate a bit after that day.

I approached it just a bit differently. We asked my friend and a friend of my partner to be the MC (sounds cool, right?). So they were together anyway, with everything they had to do. But we didn't let them do everything. No way. We made sure there was a paid and real wedding planner who arranged all the lights, sound, bands, photographers, canapés with brie, and bridal bouquets. Everything. From white chairs there to decorations on the tables to microphones for all speeches. It was the best choice we made regarding our wedding. That was also because the wedding planner we had was so incredibly good that every detail was perfect, the whole day. He made sure of that. He knew every second of the day what we were doing and thus indirectly ensured that our masters of ceremonies could celebrate with us and everyone else. The two MCs were the contact between our guests and us, especially beforehand, because they know our circle of friends and family. But on the day itself, they could also enjoy. Of course, they had an important role, but I’m not going to let my friend light four thousand candles. I also wanted to twirl with her on the dance floor and have a good glass of wine with her around 1 o'clock.

Wise lesson then. For everyone who is getting married: think carefully. Ask someone you know, but maybe not your very best, with whom you actually want to party that day. And invest in a professional planner, because that takes away so much stress. That ensures that you enjoy the anticipation and the day itself more. They can do this, they organize weddings week after week. Your friend is not a wedding planner, she is your friend, whom you want to have there as an honorary guest. Also, don't ask a few friends of your sister or brother to arrange all the food and welcome all the guests. They also don't want a tremendous job in the middle of the weekend. In other words: arrange it well yourself and keep your loved ones really your loved ones. It’s your wedding, so you make sure the practical things happen.

Tip of the century. It can just as well save a beautiful friendship .

P.S.: And just get married in the Netherlands. I’ve had two weddings abroad and it rained twice. Just saying.