Happy couples do these four things without asking for them
Love is unique and having a bit of a relationship is incredibly cozy. But it can sometimes also be a bit of a challenge to keep that long-term relationship exciting.
Because let's be honest: you know each other inside out after all those years. Even in bed. Even on the couch. The jokes, the stories, oh, you know in advance what’s going to happen and you’re already busy enough with yourself, your job, your friends, and your possible children. So that lover just has to take it all in stride, that attention thing. You've already had those tough years and that love is still there. You’ll give him that promised foot massage next month.
Recognizable? Shame. Before you know it, your relationship is completely dull and exhausted, so make something beautiful and exciting out of it now. It turns out there are four things that people do for each other in a good relationship, without the other asking for it out loud. And it’s precisely those things that make a long relationship it nice again, making you even happier with each other.
1. Cook something that the other likes. Simple. After a long day, we all love a good plate of food and how nice is it when it’s your favorite meal waiting for you? Small effort, nice gesture.
2. Don’t complain about each other’s mess. Sometimes it’s his laundry that’s lying around, sometimes it’s your bag collection that’s all over the house. That’s how it goes. You live together under one roof and that’s give and take. And the more you nag about things that don’t matter, the more it leads to things that do matter. You’ll become unhappier in your own home and that causes either you or your partner to start looking outside the house.
3. Support each other through downs AND ups. If someone isn’t feeling great, then you’re there for that person. But also be there for your partner when there’s good news to celebrate. Grab that bottle of champagne, light a candle, and pour a glass of wine when your cutie comes home with a promotion or a new job. Cheers to that and laugh together about the beautiful things in life.
4. Send messages with questions. Not just a heart or telling something about your day, ask what your love is doing and with whom and how it’s going. Just out of interest. Be that best friend for your buddy because you’re of course lovers, but also each other’s besties. You share your whole life with that person, so make sure you know what’s going on in the daily life of the other.
So, I have some things to do today. I might as well start with that cooking. Coincidentally, his favorite food is cheese fondue and I happen to enjoy making that (because: cheese and wine). You have to start somewhere, right?
