Meghan and her miscarriage

The misery was already great for Meghan Markle, but it could always get a little worse, as we read today. Meghan shares in an interview with the New York Times that she lost her second child. “I was changing Archie's diaper and felt that I was losing our second child.” To keep Archie calm, she kept humming a children's song, knowing that something intensely sad was happening in the meantime. She also recounted how she later lay in the hospital, her hand in Harry's. She suddenly wondered why her hand felt so wet; it was due to Harry's tears.

Because ten to twenty out of a hundred women experience a miscarriage, Meghan wanted to help people by sharing her story. It lightens the grief. Miscarriage is a difficult sorrow to capture, especially for others and especially for those who do not know it. How can you be sad about something that is not there? But the strange thing is: it is there. From the moment you know you are pregnant, you are a mother. You change everything so that you can let this child grow healthy throughout this life. You stroke your belly, you throw the alcohol and raw milk cheese in the corner, you think about the future of your family. I have also had a miscarriage and many of my friends have too. It is a primal sorrow that is also hard to give form to. I agree with Meghan: sharing and mourning is the best medicine. And a hand that is wet with the tears of your loved one, that helps too.