These are the main reasons why couples get divorced

It seems that January is not one of the most romantic months of the year. We actually break up when the new year begins, it turns out.

We find it a bit like a New Year's resolution, that separation. New year, new opportunities, that idea. It seemed like such a good plan years ago, marry, house, kids… That love between you was unbreakable. And look at you now.

Couples are increasingly throwing in the towel. According to CBS, you have about a 40% chance of breaking up if you first very happily ever after are married. In recent years, there have been between 31,000 and 35,000 divorces per year. In about 18,000 cases, it involved couples with minor children. But why do we actually get divorced?

These are the 11 most common reasons why we as couples break up. And, drumroll… Sexual infidelity, that crooked skate, cheating – is therefore NOT it.

1. You are together for the wrong reasons.
You are with someone because that person offers you financial security, for example. Not smart. And that certainly doesn't work in the long run.

2. You are no longer an individual
You are you and there is hardly a you left. You completely immerse yourself in the relationship and you are completely dependent on the other. That bursts at some point. 5. You long for freedom.

3. There are children and you forget your relationship.
Too busy with life and with the household and especially with the children. You literally forget that you still have a partner to maintain and that the person lying next to you in bed snoring also needs some pleasant attention.

4. You turn out to be very different.
And you only learn that over time, that you have those clashing characters.

5. You no longer have intimacy.
It has nothing to do with cheating, but with sex. Because that is no longer there.

6. You both expect something different from life.
And you have grown tired of each other. You find it boring together and think the grass is greener somewhere else.

7. You have nagging about… money.

8. You have no physical contact anymore.
Not only do you have no or little sex, but you don't even touch each other anymore. No kisses, no hugs: nothing. A life like sisters and/or brothers.

9. You have other priorities.
Your partner is completely absorbed in a hobby and hardly makes time for you together. You don't share that interest and you put your girlfriends in spot number 1. Or your father and mother.

10. There is no trust left between you. The cookie is crumbled.

11. You have nothing more to tell each other.