Getting married is fun, but this…
The guest list hassle, this is how you deal with it. There are people who seize corona as the moment to get married quickly. There is no better excuse to keep that annoying aunt out of the door. Only a few people are allowed to come and it's way too dangerous for those old folks to be at the ceremony. Before you know it, you pull a Grapperhaus and if things go wrong, you get infected and with even more bad luck, you're in the ICU a week later.
I must say that I always found the guest list a point to postpone a potential marriage for another year or so. Because there is always someone you think: meh...
On the other hand: to let one of the nicer days of your life be taken away from you because you can't figure out the guest list, that's also something. So I came up with some strategies.
1. The have-we-eaten-together-this-year strategy
My beloved turned fifty two years ago and had a particularly handy invitation policy: he only invited people he actually had over. This way, all vague schoolyard acquaintances were neatly excluded from the invitation.
2. You do it secretly
So really, really, really small. Just you, the one you are marrying, and the witnesses. Really zero guest list hassle.
3. You get married abroad
Then you have a high dropout rate anyway. The more vague acquaintances will also make less effort to be present, and this way you have filtered it neatly and the final decision lies with them.
4. The we-eat-at-each-other's-home approach
Your marriage is a celebration of the two of you, so you both need to be happy with the company. Suppose you have work friends from years ago with whom you might eat once a year but whose partners your partner doesn't know, what do you do with that? If you apply the we-eat-at-each-other's-home rule, the answer is clear: no. And then you can still have dinner with those friends to celebrate.
5. The will-I-still-know-who-these-people-were-in-ten-years tactic
When my best friend got married, she was extremely selective in her invitation policy. No vague colleagues and NOBODY she would have to introduce herself to on that day. She wanted to still be in contact with all attendees when she looked at her photo album ten years later. And she succeeded.
6. The I-don't-care-everyone-is-welcome approach
Letting go, letting go, letting go. No hassle, no sour faces, and such a full house that you probably won't even notice those annoying types.
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