5 x what we should worry less about in our relationship

Men have quite a knack for saying that we women are so incredibly complicated. Fair is fair: sometimes we indeed cause quite a bit of drama. Maybe we are also a bit complex and react a bit exaggerated from time to time. But hey, just give us that little moment. These small outbursts are often fueled by the silly (but not ill-intentioned) comments from men. At least, that's how I experience it. Sometimes the bomb explodes over something incredibly trivial. I speak from experience. Unfortunately, I can't entirely deny that I voluntarily choose to kick up a big scene at such moments: showtime. Sometimes you just feel like doing that. The downside is that it doesn't always turn out well, and before you know it, you suddenly find yourself in a fierce argument. So letting it rest is also a good option. It saves you a lot of tension and unnecessary stress. That's why I'm sharing five common comments that you can get really worked up about, but that you can also easily let pass you by. Or even prevent. If you're in the mood for a fight, then of course you can go all out.

1. ‘My ex always said...’
Look, we don't need to refer to our ex daily, and no, we aren't waiting for old vacation stories, but the existence of an ex doesn't have to be a disaster. It's not that strange that you and/or your partner have been with someone else. Unless you've been together since you were twelve, of course, but I'm not assuming that. You should think like this: that old relationship didn't end for nothing. Besides, you have chosen each other now, right? Let it go.

2. The answer ‘Nice’ to the question: ‘How do I look?’
‘Nice? What do you mean: nice?!’ Discovering a new Netflix series is nice, white peppernuts are nice, but your partner is not just ‘nice’. Okay: the word nice can really get us worked up, but you could also prevent the disappointment by asking the question differently: ‘Do I look amazing or do I look amazing?’ A desired answer guaranteed.

3. ‘I find her quite attractive.’
About someone else than you, then. This doesn't always go down well. Well, there are countless beautiful people, but what does appearance really say about someone? Virtually nothing. If you keep getting worked up about this, you'll never find peace. You don't think your partner is the only attractive person on earth, do you? Jealousy is also perceived as unattractive. So even if you find it incredibly annoying at times, just go along and say: ‘Yes indeed, she is beautiful.’

4. ‘You are reacting very exaggeratedly.’
I find this the worst of all, but I try to let it go more often. This comment gives you the feeling that you are not being taken seriously. You lay your heart on the table and this is the reaction. Well, a moment to swallow. Women simply have different connections in their brains than men, and yes, hormones also play a role. On some days we can therefore be more sensitive. The male brain simply works differently, and we might as well accept that. The same goes for the comment ‘Are you on your period or something?’ Just ignore it. Men can't give birth for nothing. Breathe in and breathe out.

5. ‘Did you eat all of that?’
‘Uhm yes, and I'm also going to order a McFlurry with M&M's later, whether you like it or not.’ Comments like these are very dangerous. Everything related to food and weight often goes down the wrong way. But the cause of this often lies with yourself. When someone asks: ‘Have you lost weight?’, you immediately think: I was too fat. ‘You have nice buttocks in those pants’ you experience as: without those pants, you don't have that. This is quite an annoying trait, which I can also struggle with. So it's important to keep in mind: you don't always hear what you think you hear. Stop overthinking.