Why we can't stand perfect people
You have those perfect people gone wrong, we also call them goody two-shoes in everyday life. They do everything by the book or better, nothing goes wrong and they are the best girls and boys in the class. This perfection and holiness rubs many people the wrong way, but why is that actually?
The perfect person actually comes in all shapes and sizes. It could be that one friend who has stopped traveling because flying is simply not good for the climate. Or your colleague who has a presentation ready five days in advance, so she can start the meeting well-prepared. The stupid thing is that there is a logic in the behavior of the holy bean in question, so why the annoyance?.
The annoyance and irritation about people who are exemplary is partly related to a bit of jealousy. Because how relaxed is it if you also have that important meeting ready? The annoyance can also go further than just some jealousy, because what the holy friend does can also feel like an attack. An attack on your behavior in this case, because weren't you sitting with your derrière in an airplane last month?
It's quite simple, Quest explains, because if you belong to the group that exhibits bad behavior, then you feel addressed by the friend in question. If it were about a topic that you have absolutely nothing to do with, you would probably praise her. And there you have the cause of your irritation twice: you are it yourself.
Of course, there is still the holy bean left that you simply cannot place under these two categories. That is probably because that person has no pure motivation in spreading holiness, such as: becoming better from this behavior. In this case, irritation is simply allowed. The fun part is that you can always check within yourself where that annoyance comes from. Just go investigate that feeling. Why do you find that person annoying? What bothers you about this behavior? Is it because you might want it yourself? And when you reach that point, you suddenly find that holy bean much less holy. Also quite nice.
Source: Quest
