This says something about your personality if you go back to your ex

Are you into on-and-off relationships? Can't you get over that one great love? Do you want nothing more than to be back together with your ex? It's not your fault.

It's, well, about your personality, and specifically how your attachment style is.

Self-confidence

This is evident from research by Morgan Cope and Brent Mattingly from Ursinus College in Pennsylvania. If you come from a secure family with a safe childhood, you are often securely attached as well. But if, for example, you don't have a father figure in sight or have a difficult relationship with your mother, sister or brother, it may be that your attachment style is disrupted. No reason for major panic, but it does indicate how you approach life. You might cling more to that one love because you don't want to lose that stability, even though you might know that someone else is a better fit for you. “Ending a relationship can cause self-confusion, especially for people with significant attachment issues,” scientists state.

Additionally, it has a lot to do with your self-assurance: your self-worth. Think positively about yourself? Then you might be less likely to go back to someone who broke your heart. Are you sometimes a bit insecure about your abilities? Then you are open to that ex, even though he or she hurt you in the past. The striking thing that research shows: fear of commitment and starting an old relationship again are closely related. This is often the case for people who don't really know who they are, who don't know what their own strengths are. They rely on the opinions of others more than they would like.

I miss you

But above all, scientists state that it's not strange that you might want to go back to your those warm times with your ex. Or that you just can't get over that one old flame. According to Dr. Lewandowski, this is very normal because as humans, we tend to long for happy times. And back then, you were probably happy. You can often get stuck in: what if? Once that relationship with that person is over, you leave a phase of your life behind. A phase that could have gone differently... We all know it well, right? The one that got away, that idea. But the question is whether you really need to work on it or if you should just go on living your life.

Source: Ursinus College