Hey, nice: getting older is good for your libido

The older, the more boring, duller, sleepier? Not at all. The opposite turns out to be true: your libido increases as you reach higher numbers in age.

Young and wild: oh, of course the sparks fly in bed when you're in your early twenties.

But there's absolutely nothing to be afraid of when those birthdays come. Count them as blessings. Because your sex life never suffers. Look, honesty compels me to say: the thirties are, when there are young children involved, more challenging. Then it's just about fitting it in, measuring, and exhaustedly having sex when grandma and grandpa are babysitting. It's different, that sex, when there are toddlers sleeping in a room next to you. You're tired from those kids. You snap at each other about who has to get up at night to feed the baby. Making love? Are you crazy?.

Fortunately, the tide turns with time. In your forties, when those kids are a bit more independent, desire usually comes back on its own. You plan a dinner together, you dress nicely, you suddenly have eyes for each other again. You have that foundation together, you've come out of the tough years stronger than you ever thought you would. And that brings peace of mind – and no one needs to explain to you that when you feel relaxed, you also have more desire for a bit of sex. It just happens more often because you love each other and because you have more time. Specifically, 46 would be the age for ideal sexual encounters.

The best is yet to come, then. Literally.