Relationship

#FML: My husband is on a dating app

By Amayzine | #!31Mon, 24 Jul 2023 12:26:08 +0200+02:000831#31Mon, 24 Jul 2023 12:26:08 +0200+02:00-12Europe/Amsterdam3131Europe/Amsterdam202331 24pm31pm-31Mon, 24 Jul 2023 12:26:08 +0200+02:0012Europe/Amsterdam3131Europe/Amsterdam2023312023Mon, 24 Jul 2023 12:26:08 +02002612267pmMonday=9#!31Mon, 24 Jul 2023 12:26:08 +0200+02:00Europe/Amsterdam7#07-24-2023#!31Mon, 24 Jul 2023 12:26:08 +0200+02:000831#/31Mon, 24 Jul 2023 12:26:08 +0200+02:00-12Europe/Amsterdam3131Europe/Amsterdam202331#!31Mon, 24 Jul 2023 12:26:08 +0200+02:00Europe/Amsterdam7#

It all started a few months ago when I noticed that my husband Tom was behaving differently than usual. He was distant, strange, and seemed to be acting mysteriously. What was once a loving relationship now felt like a puzzle I couldn't decipher. I tried to brush my worries aside, but when I increasingly saw him guarding his phone, my curiosity grew too strong. He had never acted so strangely with his phone, and every time I brought it up, he changed the subject. I knew it was wrong, but I couldn't help it; I had to know what was going on. The urge to discover the truth became irresistible.

One evening, when Tom finally left his phone unattended, I made an impulsive decision and searched his phone. I chuckled at the fact that he was being so secretive but hadn't thought to change his password. However, that amusement quickly turned to dread when I saw what he had been so protective about. The presence of countless photos of other women on his device made my heart shatter into a thousand pieces. I could barely comprehend it, and it triggered a wave of emotions: anger, sadness, fear, and despair. I scrolled further and saw where he had picked up those photos. Tom was on not one, but three dating apps at the same time. He didn't show his face, which is why this hadn't come out yet.

In his profile, he indicated that he was going through a divorce and until that was finalized, he preferred not to show his face, but he was willing to send photos to serious matches. I searched a bit further and found conversations with strange women on topics I would rather not repeat, but at least it wasn't about the daily groceries.

Now I don't know what to do. I can hardly look him in the eye, but I also don't want to let on that I know before I've decided what I want to do about this. My heart is torn, and I don't think I can continue with this marriage now. But what then? Are we going to divorce? I don't know if that would really make me happy right now...