Signs that you are too easy in your relationship

Often I hear around me that people proudly say ‘it's very easy to be in a relationship’. And I understand that to some extent, because no one wants to be someone who nitpicks at everything, but there are also limits. According to psychologists, there is also such a thing as being ‘too easy’, and that could actually be very bad for your relationship. Are you afraid that you fall into that category? Then you should pay attention to the points below.

1. Being a people-pleaser doesn't work in the long term

This is a huge fine line, because a relationship is of course about give and take. Something you do yourself or want to give up to please another can be good for your relationship and can also be about making compromises. But giving in to something you actually don't want, that is dangerous and not sustainable for a good relationship. A small but very important difference.

2. Giving in to something is actually more harmful than giving something up

When you give in to something, the chance is much greater that you subordinate your personal needs, norms, and values to those of another, and that is a dangerous pattern to fall into, because you risk ultimately being unable to recognize your own wishes.

Do you recognize yourself in this? Then according to psychologists, you should raise the alarm in the following ways:

1. Set clear boundaries (in advance)

If you find it difficult to say something in the moment, you should ensure that you have clearly indicated and communicated your boundaries in advance and clearly state what you do and do not find acceptable.

2. Acknowledge the difference between being receptive and being passive

When you are receptive, you do not lose yourself, but you are willing to listen to others and adapt — when you passively endure everything, you position yourself as less important.

3. Be assertive and do not silently agree

This is of course the most difficult, but still try to stand up for yourself when your boundaries are crossed. When you keep thinking ‘I'll let it go this time', that gradually becomes the new normal, and that is exactly what you want to avoid.

Source: PsychologyToday