You should never ask your partner this question
Of course, you can discuss everything with the one you love, but some topics might be worth avoiding. They will give you more hassle and outraged looks than they will bring you anything positive. So especially don't ask your lover this question.
And then we are not talking about the question ‘how many bed partners have you had?’ Maybe you both know this roughly about each other, the exact number doesn't matter and you don't really care. Now you are together and that's good. But there is another question you better not ask, and that is about your girlfriends. The question that many women ask is: ‘Which of my friends do you find the prettiest? And which the ugliest?’ And that's something you actually shouldn't want to know, because your partner's opinion will make you look at your friends differently. That's a shame, because friendship is not based on that.
There are more that you better skip. These four pearls you would rather keep to yourself:
1. ‘Do you find me more attractive than your ex?’
Comparisons with ex-partners can evoke insecurity and jealousy. It's better to focus on the current relationship and its positive aspects. Of course, you are more fun.
2. ‘When are you going to propose to me?’
Well, either he is not planning to do it anytime soon or he is already planning it. You ruin everything with such a question.
3. ‘Why are you always so messy?’
Questions with ‘always’ in them are generally better to skip. You are suggesting that your partner is doing something wrong in your eyes and that he always does it. Critical questions are a shame, because they will definitely lead to arguments. And take a look in the mirror: you are not perfect either, right?
4. ‘Do you still love me?’
Questions about insecurities are also not okay. You actually ruin more with them than you want, because you are projecting that you are not comfortable in the relationship and are doubting things. It is important to discuss feelings of insecurity in an open and non-confrontational way. It is better to find out in a healthy way whether things are still good between you.
