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This is what most women say just before they plan to cheat

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Suppose you're a bit tired of your relationship. You're looking for it elsewhere. You want to cheat. You text a bit, scroll through dating apps, flirt a bit in the bar... And yes, then the moment comes when you consciously go on a date with someone other than your own husband. What do you say at home?

Well, apparently this.

The statements that relationship experts often hear from women who are about to cheat on their partner? There are particularly two that sound very logical, but also stand out. Because they are disguised excuses.

  1. ‘I just need some time for myself’
    Women who need more distance or are looking for a different emotional connection sometimes ask for “time for themselves.” This can also be meant sincerely, but if this goes hand in hand with increasing distance within the relationship, it can mean something else. They are no longer interested in depth in the relationship, it no longer excites them. In their minds, they are already ten steps ahead and want to break free from the routine and stability of the relationship. They want to move on. And they do this step by step, by doing more and more alone and wanting peace. ‘’I want to find myself again,' is also part of this. And also finding yourself again... A statement you don't make quickly when you're happy in your love life. Then it's good. If you've apparently lost yourself, then it's not good. And then you set out for more, for cheating, for something exciting and new...
  2. ‘I have a dinner with former colleagues tomorrow! Did you forget that?’. Vague stories about vague dinners or parties or whatever, where your partner is not welcome... Just watch. Because this is what women say. They don't want to hurt (anyone) and therefore twist themselves into all sorts of knots. They make excuses endlessly. ‘I have an extra staff party this year, fun right?’. ‘Oh, my friend is asking if I want to go to carnival!’. And that friend is nicely in on the plot. If you thought men were deceitful? Women can do it too.

Look, whether it always works out in your favor, cheating? No, often it doesn't. Regret is something many cheaters know. But if this isn't it either? And you settle for less? Then maybe you should discover it. There's only one way to find out... Good luck. And strength, that too. Because fun and cozy and sweet and soft? It's never that.