This is the best thing not to do if you are being ghosted

You found each other quite nice and you made some plans. Once at his place, once in the city, once staying over. All fun and cozy. And then? It became icy silent. Are you suddenly being ignored? That can be quite painful. Because: the confusion.

There is of course a word for it: ghosting. When you are ghosted, it can be a confusing and painful experience. Here are some things you better not do when faced with this situation.

• Persistent contact: although it may be tempting to send a thousand messages or call to get answers, this can only make the situation more awkward and cause the person to distance themselves even more. So it doesn't work. Also, be quiet, no matter how difficult that may be sometimes.
• Using the ghosting method yourself: in response to being ghosted, it can be tempting to apply the same tactic to the person who ghosted you. However, this can lead to a cycle of unnecessary pain and confusion. You can also just ask for clarity.
• Blaming yourself: it’s easy to fall into self-doubt and wonder what you did wrong to be ghosted. It’s important to remember that ghosting says more about the other person than about you.
• Ignoring your emotions: it’s normal to feel sad, angry, or frustrated when you are ghosted.
• Don’t ignore your emotions, but look for healthy ways to cope with them. Talk to your friends about it. Vent to your mother.
• Expecting the person to come back: although it may be tempting to hold on to hope that the person will come back and provide an explanation, it’s important to protect yourself and accept that this may not happen. They’re probably just not that into you. Sorry.
• Instead, it’s best to focus on self-care, surround yourself with supportive people, and look ahead. Everyone deserves respect and honesty in relationships, and if someone chooses to ghost, that says more about them than about you. You are worth more than this. Never forget that. Choose yourself and your happiness and go do things you enjoy.