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Microdates will be the salvation of your relationship

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At the beginning of a new relationship, you can't think of anything else. You want to get to know each other and discover if you really fit together, and you put a lot of time into that. But the longer you are together, the lower the date nights end up on the to-do list. There shouldn't be alarm bells going off immediately, but of course, you want to prevent falling into the well-known rut Good news, according to dating coach and sexologist Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, the solution is actually very simple.

Plan a microdate

The big rescue is actually something very small: a microdate. A moment of about ten minutes where you really have time for your partner. No phones or other distractions nearby, but fully focus on strengthening your connection. It can last a bit longer, but it certainly doesn't have to be a full evening program like a ‘normal’ date night. According to Suwinyattichaiporn, this mini date should primarily be fun, light-hearted, and not too complicated. “The goal is to have fun, make a connection, and take the pressure off the logistics of dating.” So it's not the moment to bring up the discussion from the day before again. You can actually plan such a date at any time of the day. In the morning before you go to work, or just in between during your breaks. Any little gap in your schedule, no matter how small, is a potential microdate.

The benefits of microdates

According to Suwinyattichaiporn, the power of the microdate lies in the fact that it is a short moment, and you want to get everything out of it. A bit like the top item on your wishlist being temporarily on sale, so you need to score quickly. Just because you only see each other for a short time, the conversation won't become boring, and there will still be plenty to discuss. You immediately look forward to the next date. Does that remind you of something? Exactly, it feels like your relationship has just started again. This way of dating also shows that it's not about how often or how long you see each other, but about how you fill that time. “Microdating is the ‘work smarter, not harder’ of relationships. It emphasizes short, relaxed dates moments that enhance the connection without feeling like a chore,” says Suwinyattichaiporn. After a busy workday, you don't always have the energy for an elaborate dinner; a date night then feels more like an obligation than a nice moment together. That is of course not the intention. With a microdate, you still have time for each other, but it's just relaxed and without all the obligations.

Microdate ideas

Such a mini-date doesn't have to be spectacular at all. Just taking a walk, getting ice cream, or playing a (short) game are already a few options. You can also turn daily tasks into a microdate. For example, stop by a bookstore on the way to the supermarket to pick something out for each other. You really have attention for the other person for a moment, and you can talk about it together later. However you fill it in, as long as the focus is really on your relationship and connection, everything is fine. So come on, let's microdate.

Source: PureWow