Why a sex break is good for your relationship

It may sound very unromantic, but if you haven't had sex with your partner for a while, it can actually be very good for your relationship. Even if you're in a situationship, a sex break can turn out to be very beneficial for you. It helps your lover realize what he or she is missing when they have to miss it for a while. ‘You don’t know what you got ’till it’s gone’; so you will just put in a little more effort for each other. But that's not all, there are more benefits to a temporary abstinence.

Why make-up sex is not a solution

As was previously known, make-up sex is not particularly healthy in your relationship, at least not to keep falling back on. Things need to be talked out, not sexed out. Having good conversations is encouraged when you’re not busy with your tongues in each other's mouths. And it’s not just when good conversations need to be had. The tension between you will also logically increase. If you both normally have a healthy sex drive, the tension can quickly intensify.

More fantasy and innovative sex

Because you have enough time to fantasize about what you would like to do with each other, the sex after the break will most likely feel much more innovative. Instead of falling back into the standard routine, you will feel more relaxed and have the space to adjust things and try new things.

Building playful tension

If you can handle it, it’s also fun to completely immerse yourselves in long kissing sessions, feeling is allowed, but above the clothes. Or sending sexy photos and videos to each other, maybe even facetiming when you’re apart (extra safe: don’t get tempted to jump into bed together naked). Tell each other what you would like to do together, so you know what to look forward to when the moment arrives. You will feel that tension again as if you just met; that kissing on the street after one of the first dates, not going home together yet, but feeling that it will be amazing during that night when it finally happens.

Set a deadline for extra anticipation

Do agree on a deadline in advance and put a big red circle around it in your calendar. Make it romantic, both prepare some nice surprises (new positions, props, lingerie?) and enjoy the moment when you can finally immerse yourselves in each other again.