IF A LOVED ONE ENDS UP IN THE HOSPITAL

Then this is the dumbest thing you can say

Last week, suddenly one of my dearest ones ended up in the hospital. Fortunately, things are going well again, but man oh man, when someone is in the hospital, it brings out the disaster tourist in others. Let me take you through the dumbest, and I mean really the dumbest, things people tend to say.

Is she dying?

I.Kid.You.Not. This question was asked to a friend of mine when her daughter, who is missing a heart chamber, underwent the crucial heart surgery. Well, dude, nice of you to ask. It could happen, I've been afraid of that my whole life, but if it happens, I'll let you know right away, okay?

Why didn't you call me?

Happened in our situation. An angry aunt called who loves to spread bad news and was therefore highly upset that she had not been involved as the town crier. She didn't ask how the patient was doing or how his wife felt. And no, she didn't ask if she could do anything. She just wanted to know how serious the situation was. That makes the story just a bit juicier.

I would never do that

Another loved one had a tumor in her breast and chose amputation and reconstruction instead of a breast-conserving operation where the chance of cancer returning was high. “I would never do that,” said a friend with an opinion. I believe you can't really judge this in this case. And what exactly does your opinion matter? She must have thought it through well, don't you think?

My neighbor had it too

Also something so miraculous. When you share your most personal story ever, people hardly listen to the point of your sentence and then tap a story from the I-know-someone-who-also category. For some reason, they always choose a story with an unhappy ending. Miraculous.

Are you going to that hospital?

As if you have the time to research all the hospitals in the country. Normally, you go to the hospital near you. You never know. Moreover, we don't live in a third-world country and you could reasonably assume that every hospital delivers and otherwise you refer yourself to a more competent specialist. As if your conversation partner knows exactly what the pros and cons of all hospitals are.

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Also miraculous. People who say nothing. Ask nothing. Just nothing. Maybe they find it difficult, or they don't dare because it (see above) is soon not good. What can you ask then? How you are doing might be a good one. And if you can do anything? And that everything will be fine again. Those kinds of things...