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MONEY CAUSES FIGHTS OR NOT

In the beginning it was nice and clear: he had a house and I had a house. His euros and mine. A gift from together was fifty-fifty and those little pasta dishes on the weekend we did a bit alternately. But then his shampoo also became mine, but did my financial debacle a.k.a. the bank account then also automatically become his? I calmly buy a book instead of broccoli at the end of my money, but he sees such a broccoli book issue a bit differently. And then he would know exactly what I spend on drinks, ten colors of nail polish, and the addition to my shoe closet. My inner shopaholic went wild, she smashed everything to bits. But the thoughtful voice in my head found it just as thoughtful as it sounds. And before I knew it, I received the first statement from the and/or account in the digital mailbox (my love and the thoughtful voice get along well).

You get used to it, even when he wonders out loud if that bag was really necessary before the bill for gas, water, and electricity (he almost never does this). Everything goes into one big pile and we buy what we like, such a joint thing. I loaded my online shopping cart to the brim for the joint account even before my paycheck came in, but now the financial sector in my mind trembles when I plan to do it. I still throw bills unopened into the drawer and then pay late. This is a huuuuuge improvement, because I earn on the reminder costs. Look, win-win, ladies.

What did I also get? Such a big bourgeois stamp pressed on my forehead and a heap of comments. The Mina's turned in their graves (if they were already in heaven), I was back to square one on the independence scale and my freedom was over. The comments on our shared thing were free, by the way. I was flabbergasted because he had nothing to say about my money, but they did? But I breathed in and out, didn't care much, and I discovered it. That joint account of ours, that's the ultimate birthday food. Everyone has an opinion on how you manage the finances, EVERYONE. And you pick up those simmering irritations where they argue about money in relational spheres. Did you know that sixty percent of couples argue about . Women hide a purchase twice as often as men. The frontrunners in the list are women up to 29 years old. Certainly, a quarter of them has bought something without telling her boyfriend. Oops. Shhh. Can this fact remain a secret too? Thanks. Best regards from me and my YSL bag.? It's the number one reason to have a good fight with each other.

But I'm not as rotten as I seem, because there is a way to suppress all that fuss in your free weekend. The Nibud did research and what turns out? Couples with a joint account don't often get into each other's hair and have fewer financial worries. Simply because you both see where the money goes. Having a personal account alongside the and/or situation is a plus. The advice is to open the account as soon as you share the front door and not to wait until buying houses, having kids, or wedding parties. Ha, I suddenly feel a lot less medieval.

And what do you do? When the bank account is filled, do you let those bills flutter together or rather alone?

Written by Adeline Mans