the cup of coffee is the new date

Or if I had the desire and time to just have a nice cup? Yes, of course, why not. Just ask Simone, I never say no to coffee so if a guy asks me if I have time on a Saturday morning, I say very easily: yes, nice. And it really was nice, you know. I think I'm always quite easy to get along with. You can say that about yourself, right? And I've always had many male friends because I do believe that can work very well. So if a guy I might have just met a few days ago asks me if I feel like raising my caffeine intake for a bit, then I'm definitely in. I don't read anything into it right away, especially not if you haven't had any ‘I'm into you’ vibes from the other person.

So there I was, with a latte in my left hand and that boy sitting on my right talking about cows and calves and of course about the magazine (you have it already, right?). Conversations that I actually have with all my friends which made me think that this was just a casual meet-up because the guy also lives near me. I'm always an open book, so you can always expect awkward and embarrassing stories from me. Something with #noshame.

Until the moment you say goodbye, because it's Saturday and you have the urge to shop and you want to go to the Levi's store ASAP because the new 501 skinny is finally on sale (so good for the butt) and that boy tries to kiss you. Uh, abort abort. What on earth went wrong? And more importantly: what do you do then? But really, help. Because I genuinely thought it was nice enough to think we could be great buddies, but I really don't want more than that.

Should you a) kiss him so it's not awkward and then let him know via the app later that you're not really feeling it? Or b) go in for an awkward hug where his kiss lands just on your cheek? And then hope it never really comes up again so you can just go through life as friends? Or c) be sensible and just say like an adult that you both had different expectations and make it clear that he's in the friend zone territory?

Yes, okay, option c, I know. But I didn't do that. Yikes. Just give me Netflix & Chill. It's just a bit clearer.