Why me-time is crucial in your relationship

Alright, let's get straight to the point: I can't stand couples who always want to be together 24/7. As in: you make plans with a friend but always get a plus one for free. Now, we all love anything that's free, but in this case, it can be returned as far as I'm concerned. Or that friend who drops her lover's name a hundred times during a conversation; ‘I‘ barely appears in her vocabulary, she always speaks in the we-form and if you want to make plans, it always has to be discussed with the other half first. To speak in Amayzine editorial language: mega snooze.

Call me a single whiner if you will, but I just love individuality. Even in a relationship. And here's why:

Point 1: You are so much more than just your relationship

You are great, your partner is great, and together you are of course even more fun. But realize that you as an individual are already enough. Tom Cruise may have made one of the most romantic (and cliché) statements in Jerry McGuire (‘You complete me’), but it's also a bit exaggerated because you alone, as an individual, are also enough.

Point 2: You need time to recharge

Nothing is better than a partner who is there for you when you're sick, when you're just not feeling great or stressed. But sometimes the only remedy for that is time for yourself. Admit it. Reading a book or binge-watching a series on Netflix alone can sometimes be the ultimate form of recharging and he won't mind at all if you want to do that without him.

Point 3: You have different interests

It's nice to have shared interests, but you don't always have to like everything your partner likes. It's healthy for your interests to differ from each other. Does he want to watch football or whatever? Let him. In the meantime, you can watch the movies he doesn't want to see but you do instead.

Point 4: Love is about support and respect

And not about constant attention. If you have a relationship where you support and trust each other, then those few hours or days that you're not together are not the end of the world. They are even good for you because then the reunion is even more fun. Something about distance makes the heart grow fonder. You appreciate the time you spend together even more. In my previous relationship, my ex had to travel a lot for work and yes, I really missed him, but I loved having our apartment all to myself from time to time. And as soon as he is back, you enjoy each other's company even more.

Anyway, even if everything is going well in your relationship, give yourself some me-time. Guaranteed you'll have an even more happily ever after.