The misery: why we are still disappointed when he does nothing for Valentine's
Hi guys, I know you're reading along. Caught (if you don't have a trunk between your legs, definitely slide this piece under his nose, thank you). I need to get something off my chest. Valentine's Day is a complicated thing. Lately, it's been really cool to shout that you Valentine's Day think it's nonsense. Oh no, it's only cool if you say ‘commercial nonsense’. Yes, then you really belong. Preferably roll your eyes a bit too.
You probably hear your friends around you shouting it too, and actually, you agree that it's a waste of money. You cautiously gauge your girl. In a way that makes it very clear what you think of Valentine's Day. She'll look at you for a moment and probably say something like: ‘Oh no, I don't care about that cheesy exaggerated stuff, come on.’ She says it to make you feel better.
Then The Big Day arrives. You haven't arranged or bought anything special because you thought you had unanimously decided to do nothing for Valentine's Day. When you get home, she has a gift for you (yes, really, but suddenly nice) and the whole bedroom transformed into Fifty Shades a playroom. Da faque?
‘How unfair is this?’
Well, there you are with your good behavior. She'll act like it doesn't matter to give you a kiss. She'll keep smiling, but she's lying. Inside, something is bubbling. Meanwhile, she's texting her best friend with a lump in her throat. ‘SEE, HE REALLY HAS NOTHING!!’ Yes, she does. Somewhere along the way, it goes wrong. Because of the whole ‘commercial’ thing, it's suddenly been imposed on her that she can't long for romance anymore. And when all her friends get hearts and bears and breakfasts and flowers, she gets nothing.
Yes, she's a bit angry at herself. Because she pretended in front of you that she didn't care much about playing the cool chick, but her romantic heart still won the battle. And now she's also a little disappointed in you, hoping that you should really know her better. Although she'll never let you know that with her head held high. How freaking unfair is this? What a mindfuck.
So a tip for all Dutch men who ever come across this piece: when in doubt, definitely do it. Just buy flowers more often, even if it's not Valentine's Day. Especially on those other 364 days of the year. And to all women: shall we just decide for ourselves whether we like Valentine's Day or not? Seems like a solid plan.
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What to do when your boyfriend is anti-Valentine
