4 tips to have more sex
From a cozy twice a week to just about three times a month. The sex life of those over 25 is no longer as wild as it used to be, according to research from Kenniscentrum Rutgers. But how did that happen and, more importantly, how do you fix it?
The biggest culprit behind the lack of desire is stress. Too tired, too busy, too everything, which means that mainly sleeping happens between the sheets and significantly less sex. Additionally, next to the potential sex partner lies the smartphone, which apparently is the instigator of the low libido. It's scrolling and sleeping instead of a little more intimacy. But having less sex means having less desire for sex means even less sex. To ensure that the country doesn't run dry, here are some tips.
1. Relaaaaaax
Stress takes away the desire for sex, which is why it's important to relax. Stress produces cortisol, and the more cortisol, the less testosterone, which you need to get aroused. It starts with taking time for yourself, which will likely automatically increase your desire to get intimate. And by the way, did you know that having sex also relieves stress?
2. It’s mental
Forget about binge-watching that one series tonight and dive into the kitchen together. The chances are high that you'll feel much more in the mood with some music on than if you plop down on the couch next to each other with a plate of food.
3. Take your time
If you see sex as a chore, then you might as well pack it in. Have sex mainly because you want to. Quality always trumps quantity. But if you're busy, then scheduled sex could be an option. You don't have to fill it in so bluntly in your shared calendar; a term like ‘date night’ covers it well.
4. Experiment more
The daily grind is killing your sex life. Are you running on autopilot with a daily routine? Shake that up a bit. Have sex on the kitchen table, at times when you normally never do, but whatever you do: do it differently.
Oh, and a little tip from sexologist Eveline Stallaart on NU.nl: don't attach too much value to all those people who say they tear each other's clothes off twice a week; they usually make it sound better than it is.
Source: NU.nl
