Low libido? In a relationship, you should have sex at least 11 times a year.

Look, we really understand that in a long relationship or a happy marriage it doesn't happen every day anymore (literally). You're tired and have other things on your mind than sex.

But yes. If it hardly ever happens, it becomes a different story. That's when the misery usually begins.

Minimum
A week without sex: it happens to the best of us. Especially for couples with children; the day doesn't start calmly with a bit of lounging in bed and sleeping in, but with screaming kids. Not really uplifting for your libido. But if you stick to the numbers a bit, according to scientists, you can still keep your relationship enjoyable. There is a minimum number of times you should definitely have sex per year, according to experts. And that is 11 times a year. At least. That amounts to about once a month, and well, skipping it once isn't a disaster, because sometimes life just gets in the way and the daily grind with kids/job/dog/parents/friends/sports/minor ailments gets in the way.

How often do we actually do it? That has everything to do with your age. It won't be a surprise, but people aged 18-29 have the most sex. They have sex in a relationship about 112 times a year, which amounts to twice a week. From that age onwards, libido declines: people aged 30-39 have sex about 86 times a year, which is 1.6 times a week. But still, you end up at 52 times a year, much more than the recommended minimum. Good job therefore.

Single
But how does it work for singles? Heterosexual, single men have an average of about 63 times a year, and a heterosexual woman just a bit less often: 55 times a year. But the difference is manageable.

But how do you know if you're ‘just keeping up’ with the rest of the Netherlands? According to psychologists, having sex three times a month in a relationship is ‘normal’. That's 36 times a year. If you keep track a bit, you can start counting. A minimum of 11 times, according to the proper norm, is 36 times a year acceptable. Good enough. But: more is always allowed in this case.

Happy wippings.

Source: GSS