This is how to deal with irritation

The friend who always assumes that every sleepover can take place at your place or that couple who finds it completely normal (in your perception) that you always take the receipt from dinner (because you just earn more); usually you can handle it and sometimes it goes a bit wrong. Dealing with irritation in three manageable steps.

1. Remove the emotion
It won't get better that way. Puff it away, go for a walk, call someone who has nothing to do with it and to whom you can vent a little, and then move on to point 2.

2. Prepare it
So. Have you gotten rid of the worst? Not yet? Then call someone again, and we can continue. Put yourself in the other person's shoes. After all, we are dealing with friends here, so in most cases, they don't mean it badly towards you. Did you perhaps ever say that you like having sleepovers at your place? Maybe because your daughter actually has homesickness and the other person has just kept filling that in a bit? And have you really paid the last few times? Had you not also been to their place in the meantime? Or maybe they forgot or you really said that you like to pay. Anyway, put yourself in the other person's shoes, only then will you come to a solution.

3. Call!
Or even better: say it face to face. And maybe even today. Otherwise, you'll sweep it under the rug again and be inclined to just let it go, because that's easier. But really: you can learn to confront. And fear of confrontation is after reading this piece also no excuse.

Say that it probably wasn't meant that way, but that something came across to you in a certain way and you want to share it so that the other person can do something with it. That’s. It. And probably the other person will then clarify their actions, you will understand each other, and there will be (if we have entered the post-covid era and you do the as-I-come-out-of-quarantine checklist) hugged.

To friendship!