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This is how you argue well

And it is also useful

By May-Britt Mobach | #!30Wed, 05 Apr 2023 14:30:15 +0200+02:001530#30Wed, 05 Apr 2023 14:30:15 +0200+02:00-2Europe/Amsterdam3030Europe/Amsterdam202330 05pm30pm-30Wed, 05 Apr 2023 14:30:15 +0200+02:002Europe/Amsterdam3030Europe/Amsterdam2023302023Wed, 05 Apr 2023 14:30:15 +0200302304pmWednesday=9#!30Wed, 05 Apr 2023 14:30:15 +0200+02:00Europe/Amsterdam4#04-05-2023#!30Wed, 05 Apr 2023 14:30:15 +0200+02:001530#/30Wed, 05 Apr 2023 14:30:15 +0200+02:00-2Europe/Amsterdam3030Europe/Amsterdam202330#!30Wed, 05 Apr 2023 14:30:15 +0200+02:00Europe/Amsterdam4#

In an ideal relationship, there is conflict and it really sparks. A good argument can provide insight into what bothers you and the other person and can pave the way for more harmony. If you just brush off every irritation, everything will pile up and escalate at some point. If you stick to the rules of the game, arguing can be very enlightening. And then a bit of sexual healing on top of that, of course.

1. Stick to this moment
You come home from a busy workday, have a steaming deadline, and find a living room full of coats over chairs, a countertop filled with dirty dishes (while the dishwasher underneath is completely empty and the runner has rolled out for fresh, dirty plates) and the fridge gives a big echo. Then you can get quite angry. But stick to now and don’t use words like ‘always’ and ‘never’. That way, you corner the other person so that it definitely won't lead to a solution.

2. Argue face to face
Or call. But if you keep texting back and forth, you know you won't get anywhere. Words are read differently and it goes from bad to worse. A little tip: when I'm really angry, I sometimes type that in a message and send it to myself. Just to blow off some steam. And then you see when you've cooled down again what a ridiculous message that actually was.

3. Don't curse
And definitely don’t throw things. Aside from the fact that you have to clean it all up and it’s quite a ridiculous display, it drives you further away from a solution. Just don’t do it.

4. Try to assume the best in the other person
He/she didn’t intentionally make a mess of the house. Maybe that person also had a bad day and was just chilling on the couch when you walked in, and the idea was to order something for you as soon as you arrived. And if that wasn’t the case and it was just laziness, then the other person will realize it wasn’t very nice if you remain a bit reasonable. Otherwise, that person will get angry again because you’re going off the rails.

5. Another tip
Vent a little to a friend. She will surely bring back the nuance, and once you’ve talked about it, the sharp edge will be gone.

Go for it, okay!