Is a loved one addicted?

This Sunday I watched Beautiful Boy with my daughter, a beautiful film about a boy who seems to be in love with his addiction. A devastating addiction that he, spoiler alert, ultimately seems to be able to put in the corner. We watched the film for two reasons. The first because after two times we are the fan club president of Timothée Chalamet and secondly because I think it’s important to know how far someone can drift away from themselves to satisfy the hunger for drugs, even to the point of stealing from your little brother. And Beautiful Boy is simply a rare beautiful film, I have written about it before.

Addiction occurs in all layers of life. Look at The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills: still people who were at the front when wealth and fame were handed out, and they all have a family member who has died from drugs.

The heaviness for family members lies mainly in the fact that you cannot solve it. That is also the turning point in Beautiful Boy, the moment when the father says ‘no, I won't do it’. A thousand times he went looking for him, pulled his son out of an alley, watched over him and laid a blanket over his trembling body. But not this time. And after that time, his son came to his senses. Just a small sidestep: the father is played by Steve Carell whom we know again as Mitch Kessler in my favorite series The Morning Show.

In the film, the father and his wife go to a meeting for family members and the signs that hung on the wall made a deep impression on me. It’s the principle of the three c’s.

I didn’t cause it.
I can’t cure it.
I can’t control it.

I found it three beautiful wise lessons that you can also apply at other times in your life.

Give love, light candles, pray, but leave healing to professionals. They have learned for it and are emotionally further removed from it. Your open arms are patient.