People who have an affair absolutely never say this

Well, if someone does something naughty, more than once, then they are hiding something. Having an affair is not that simple. You have to do a lot secretly and be consistent in that.

But people who have an affair would never say one sentence.

And it's not that you can catch them there, unfortunately. But they certainly don't say this, so try to draw it out. Namely: ‘You can know and see everything about me, you know.’ And especially: ‘I have no secrets from you, darling.’ That is exactly what they don't want, you rummaging through his iPad or phone for secret photos, messages, or calls. To lie so blatantly to your face that he or she has no secrets? People don't do that. Look, they twist themselves in many ways, you know. Because they simply cheat.

But they would never tell their partner that they have no secrets. Because this is true, and lying so hard is unnecessary. They talk around it. They will often say things like: ‘Oh darling, don't worry, of course there's nothing. You're seeing ghosts.’ Then it's also more a matter of placing the blame on you, making you feel guilty for being suspicious. And because of that, you keep your mouth shut again. Cheaters say things like: ‘I'm late darling, I have a dinner with my work! Didn't I mention that I'm going away for a night with former colleagues? Sorry, I can't be home on time tonight, it's running late here...’

Having priorities elsewhere than with you is a red flag. Time for a good conversation?

Image: Film Don’t Worry, Darling